single w/ vaginimus….support groups
February 24, 2018 at 1:05 am #22546
I have the condition in consequence to sexual abuse….I’m still pretty angry…and I feel stuck in my emotions…there’s shame too…like i have a dirty secret…..are there support groups? this journey can be so isolating…..i can’t do this alone…March 1, 2018 at 8:31 am #22555
Hi Wildheart21 – I’m so sorry to hear about these painful experiences you’ve had. It’s not something you should have to go through at all, and definitely not something you should deal with alone.
Getting emotional support for your abuse should be your first priority. I’m not sure where you live, but you can try googling “Sexual Abuse Support Group” with the name of your city and see if there are any in your town that meet in person. If you can’t find any, there are places online, forums like this one, where you can talk to other abuse survivors and ask for advice. I’m also not sure of your health insurance status, but if it’s something you can afford, I would recommend seeing a therapist who specializes in trauma or sexual abuse so that you have someone to talk to who can help you find ways to move past the pain you’ve experienced.
And, of course, for vaginismus questions and issues, you have already found this forum. If you want to deal with your vaginismus, I would recommend speaking to a gynecologist or a pelvic floor physical therapist, as many of them can help guide you through techniques like dilation. The Congtythamtu Clinic is one of the single best places to help with vaginismus, but since I’m not sure where you’re located, know that there are other options out there.
Don’t hesitate to share your feelings here – we have all been touched by vaginismus in some way or another and can speak to some of the issues you’re going through.March 20, 2018 at 5:45 pm #22651
I completely agree with recessivegenequeen.
I am heartbroken to read that the cause of your vaginismus is abuse. I do hope you’re seeing a therapist or in a support group for other survivors. (If not, I agree with above suggestion to search “Sexual Abuse Support Group” and your city.) Here’s another link that may help:
Know that you’re not alone in this!
As for a support group for vaginismus, I agree with recessivegenequeen that this forum has helped me and a lot of others go through the journey of vaginismus. You can talk or ask about anything – anonymously – and connect with others going through very very similar things.
I have a lot of experience with dilating (with the help of Congtythamtu Women’s Clinic; going to a pelvic floor therapist or women’s clinic near you may help) and am happy to chat one-on-one, too.
Best of luck and stay in touch!April 8, 2019 at 8:35 pm #24785
Hi, I read your post, and I felt the need to let you know that you’re not alone. I also am receiving pelvic floor therapy to cure vaginismus as a result of sexual abuse. I’ve put off treatment for years to try to gain control of the emotional aspects of sexual assault before working to resolve the physical issues that resulted. It’s definitely not easy to attend therapy which requires allowing a stranger to work closely with the areas of your body which have experienced trauma. Some days are better than others, but the bad days can be very difficult. This is has made it very hard for me to drag myself to therapy some days. Nevertheless, I am now on the last dilator and have seen miraculous results. This journey isn’t easy, but, my God, is it going to be worth it.April 9, 2019 at 4:32 pm #24788
Thank you so much for getting in . I forgot I wrote on this forum. There has been a little growth since last year but emotionally I still struggle.
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congratulations on your progress
-Stay WildApril 9, 2019 at 4:34 pm #24789
hi thank you for getting in . I’m so sorry that this a year late.
I started seeing pelvic pt starting in february, and am dilating…..
dilation is a bit tricky since im getting frequent vaginal infections (BV has been ruled out)
so i’m kind of stuck for right now
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wildfeminine_photographyApril 9, 2019 at 4:38 pm #24791
I apologize for this very late reply! I am seeing a therapist, and pelvic pt now. I still have a lot of progress to make. Thank you for reaching out and for your empathetic words.
I am very happy that you were able to be cured!
best to you!
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