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“Achieving relationship intimacy after vaginismus treatment can elicit a wave of emotions – for both parties. At this stage, communication is key. Let your partner know what feels good and what doesn’t – as it’s happening. It’s also important to discuss your intimacy needs before and after the act. If you’ve been away from intimacy for a while, it’s important to get on the same level as your partner. Too often, couples are embarrassed to ask questions – everyone assumes they’re supposed to know what’s right or what feels good for the other person. Physical intimacy in this sense hinges on the emotional intimacy you have with one another.”
I know personally that our relationship was up and down while having vaginismus and we had to do quite a bit of work following treatment in order to find our intimacy again. On their site, Congtythamtu Women’s Sexual Health has an excellent section recommending helpful books related to relationships, including:
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find – and Keep – Love
By Levine, A. & Heller, R., 2012
The Five Languages of Love
By Gary Chapman, 2009
Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for A Lifetime of Love
By Sue Johnson, 2008