Ask for it.

We had a patient today who told us that her sex life had improved significantly but that sometimes she just wanted more. I pushed her a bit to talk about what “more” was for her and she struggled with the answer. Finally she sighed. “I guess, like, sometimes I want more orgasms.” I looked at …

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Men vs women.

A recent NY Times opinion piece discussed how much of our sex-related behavior is “hard-wired.” The articles questioned those behaviors which we believe to be inherited in men vs. women. For example we know that men think about sex way more often than women do, and we’ve seen studies that show that men are way less …

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Masturbation-in-training.

Have you heard of Betty Dodson? She’s an 80-something woman, author of two books about sex and the self-described Queen of Masturbation. This link was sent to me by one of my young friends in college who always makes me smile, and I thought I’d pass it along: Bottom line, the author of the article …

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Teaching about vibrators.

One of the parts of my job that I think is the most fun is teaching women about vibrators. As part of our treatment protocol, particularly for women who are having difficulty having orgasms, we introduce women to vibrators. Many women have tried one or two over the course of their lives. Some women try …

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Weathering the storm of sexual dysfunction.

Throughout Hurricane Sandy, it was fascinating to watch social media activity and see how people were coping with disruption in their routines and their fears of the unknown. Facebook statuses were anything from “No electricity or water” and “A tree fell on our house!!” to “Anyone else annoyed about missing Monday night football??” and “Whew, …

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Inspiration.

I am often inspired by my patients, by their courage to face their issues, by their commitment to the process of getting better and often by their fearlessness to do things that are completely foreign and that make them feel incredibly uncomfortable. I saw a patient yesterday who did all of the above. When we …

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Happiness.

In the field of therapy one of the common goals is to alleviate suffering and work towards increased happiness. Happiness in and of itself requires further definition. Those in the field of positive psychology define it in 3 ways, ” we work under the assumption that happiness is a scientifically unwieldy term and that its …

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Orgasms can extend your life — part 2.

The previous blog entry talked about the health benefits of orgasms for men. What are the health benefits of orgasms for Women? There are many. In a 2002 study of 293 women, a psychologist found that “sexually active participants whose male partners did not use condoms were less subject to depression than those whose partners …

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