Know Yourself, Experiment, Open Up and Be Real

I love Lena Dunham. She’s smart, funny and not at all afraid to be herself. So when a writer from her magazine called and asked if they could interview me for an article, I jumped at the opportunity. I like to think of our center, Congtythamtu Women’s Sexual Health, as channeling the spirit of Lena …

More

Women and the Development of Sex Toys

The point at which sex and technology meet is always fascinating and there seems to be an uptick in that area these days. With more expensive and personalized vibrators and sex toys becoming all the rage, it feels like we’re moving into a new era for women. But, I’d caution you! The truth is that …

More

A funny thing happened at the airport…

Last Wednesday I was heading off to Chicago to speak at a sex therapy and research conference. Yes, Virginia, there is such a thing as sex therapy and research conferences (for the record, many of them are not nearly as much fun as they sound, or as they could be, so don’t go Googling and …

More

College orgasms — he said, she said.

I gave a lecture on Female Sexuality and Empowerment to a group of college students the other day. To my surprise, there were more men than women in the group. As the group was smaller in size than expected, we were able to have a more interactive discussion. The group was enthusiastic about learning about …

More

Traveling with sex toys.

A Transportation Security Administration (TSA) employee was fired last week for allegedly leaving a note (“Get your freak on, girl”), on a traveler’s sex toy. Hmmm…I have to be honest, when I heard the report on the radio driving home I cracked up. Admittedly, the story wasn’t really funny. It was, I’m sure, quite upsetting …

More

My closet is X-rated!

Not only do I love my job because I get to help people, but I also get to constantly explore and test out anything that has to do with increasing one’s sexual pleasure. It recently occurred to me that my closet is x-rated and that when my child goes looking for something in my room …

More

NY Post and kosher sex.

In the New York Post this week there was an article about a new online site selling vibrators to the religious Jewish community. I love to see vibrators in mass media publications; the fact that there was a wide range of opinions discussed in the article from within that community adds even more value. At …

More

Sex and the vibrator movie.

I admit it. I have been waiting all my life (okay, maybe just the last 10 years) for someone to make a quality film about the incredibly interesting history of vibrators. Really. I’m not kidding. And finally, someone is doing it. (Well, I can’t actually vouch that it’s quality, but it is a real film). …

More

Vibrators in the New York Times.

As a sex educator, it is exciting to see Vibrators covered in the New York Times. The journalist has pegged the piece to the new found presence of vibrators in regular drug stores. They are now sold at Duane Reade! This is a wonderful step because vibrators were and still are sometimes thought of as …

More

When it comes to sex, lying is not a good idea!

Yesterday we saw a wonderful patient of ours. She originally came in because she felt like “there was something wrong with her.” She was having a difficult time having orgasms and, more often than not, she could not have them with a partner. We’ve worked with her for a while to help her understand that …

More