The Vibrator and the Vaginismus Patient

Vibrators come in many shapes and sizes Vibrators for women come in many shapes and sizes. Many of our vaginismus patients have never seen or touched a vibrator, as it is very common for them to feel anxiety when thinking about using a vibrator for the first time. Most vibrators for women are designed to …

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How many women use vibrators?

“More than half of 2,056 women, aged 18 to 60, used a vibrator either during masturbation or intercourse, says Debby Herbenick, PhD, MPH, associate director of the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University, Bloomington, who led the survey.” If more than half of all women use vibrators, why is there still such a …

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Teaching about vibrators.

One of the parts of my job that I think is the most fun is teaching women about vibrators. As part of our treatment protocol, particularly for women who are having difficulty having orgasms, we introduce women to vibrators. Many women have tried one or two over the course of their lives. Some women try …

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The misunderstood sex therapist-friend.

One of my best friends came from out of town to spend the night. We had a great time catching up and talking about pretty much everything, including the fact that the vibrator she was using felt too big and clunky. The day after she left I mailed her a book I thought she would …

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The vibrator shortage.

OK everyone, take a deep breath. Yes, Bloomberg did shut down the “Pleasure Carts” giving away vibrators due to over-sized crowds. Yes, it is very aggravating. Yes, it would have been fun to take a vibrator home tonight. I get it. But really? Why are we all acting like these were the last vibrators available …

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Inspiration.

I am often inspired by my patients, by their courage to face their issues, by their commitment to the process of getting better and often by their fearlessness to do things that are completely foreign and that make them feel incredibly uncomfortable. I saw a patient yesterday who did all of the above. When we …

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Don’t let this happen to you!

Apparently an entire village in China was fooled by a sex toy! Villagers discovered the object while drilling for a new well and assumed it was a rare mushroom “which according to legend has the ability to give immortality!” It’s a proven fact that orgasms boost health and immune function so these Chinese villagers weren’t …

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Female genital hygiene — simplified!

I’m often asked what the best female hygiene products are on the market. My answer —None! I know TV commercials would have you think otherwise, but the truth is your vagina is a very efficient, self cleaning organ and unless you were directed by your healthcare provider to douche, leave her alone! If you are concerned …

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The Rabbi and the vibrator.

When religion and sex intersect it can sometimes be a painful experience. And sometimes it can be…just plain hilarious. Below is a blog entry which I found so funny, I asked the author for permission to reprint here. Although the blog entry is about a Rabbi and Jewish baby naming ceremony…for those of you in …

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“Fifty Shades of Gray.”

Reading erotica is a behavioral activity we often recommend to our patients looking to help increase their desire and arousal. Some patients find reading random articles in Cosmopolitan Magazine are sufficient enough to get their motors started, while others find the erotica we recommend too “vanilla”. Like everything else in life, what works for one person doesn’t …

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