What is all the rage about Gratitude?

I must admit, that I can be a skeptic when I hear the term “gratitude”. Gratitude can be defined as, “the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness.” The idea of encouraging gratitude or keeping a gratitude journal has been offered countless times in trainings and workshops I have attended as …

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Word of the day: PHUBBING

As a fan of “word of the day,” I discovered a new one: “Phubbing.” Phubbing is when your partner is snubbing you by constantly checking their phone when they are with you. I feel that computers, although amazing, necessary, and beneficial, cause people to isolate themselves. Now we are joined by the Smartphone which can be damaging to …

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Open to Heal

We walk around sharing varying forms of ourselves depending on the situation we are in, who we are with, and how we are feeling inside.  Often we are not even conscious of the choice to adjust the level of disclosure and openness we exhibit; sometimes we are aware we are doing it but much of …

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De-Stress

With all the tragedies in the news lately, it’s hard not to crawl up in a ball and hide under our covers. Feelings of stress and impotence abound. When we are anxious, we feel more threatened by any challenges confronting us. When we are extremely distressed, our bodies may shut down – to the point where we are …

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Invest for Success

The perpetual challenge of achieving work/life balance is an issue that is relevant to many.  It comes up frequently here, not just in the stresses that bring people to treatment but even in the mere scheduling of appointments.   I recently read a moving speech given by Kim Clark, former Dean of Harvard Business School, …

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Threads of commonality.

I can’t count how many times I’ve heard a patient start a sentence with, “so I don’t know if you have ever heard this before but……..”, and they then share something we hear ALL time. In fact, we may have heard it already several times that day. It can be anything from describing symptoms, how …

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A bridge to connection.

With the increase in awareness around emotional issues and the benefits of therapy treatment, the stigma associated with seeking therapy has declined over time. In urban areas, especially in New York City, it’s not uncommon to be at a social gathering and hear a peer share a revelation she had in her therapy session, or …

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Lack of a message IS a message.

In our work treating female sexual dysfunction, we often see the same phenomenon take place: A woman will come to us for treatment after years of suffering from an issue that prevents her from having an enjoyable sex life. The issue could be anything from low desire, poor arousal, inability to orgasm or painful intercourse. …

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Hitting a wall.

It happened again today! A prospective patient called the center to make an appointment because she could not manage to have vaginal penetration. She felt that all she needed was a therapist because she had already been seen by her OB/GYN who said “everything was fine.” She was insistent that she did not need a …

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Emotionally Focused Therapy.

Often when we see a woman for treatment at the Center, we find that part of what she may be struggling with is her relationship. When that is a part of what is going on we may refer the patient for couples therapy. This is partly why our treatment is so effective. We can increase …

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