A Housewarming Party

In today’s world of hustle and bustle, we are more than just busy; we are often disconnected from ourselves and what is going on in our bodies.  While it may not seem like a big deal, this disconnect pervades many areas of life.  Many of our patients talk about wanting to experience more sexual pleasure …

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The Birds and the Bees

I often listen to the Podcast, This American Life. If you haven’t ever heard it, I encourage you to try it. Each episode consists of three sections which revolve around one general theme. The stories are often riveting, the reporting excellent and often I learn something new. A recent episode, entitled The Birds and the …

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Helping Women Learn to be Their Best Authentic Selves

Most of the advice and information about female sexuality found on the internet and in the media depicts love, relationships and sex as “movie romance”. It’s just not real. And often I find myself spending time with patients trying to help them understand that, in real life, relationships and sex are often messy, complicated, funny, …

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Foreplay: What is it?

It seems like everyone knows what foreplay is, right? Or wrong?  A quick internet search of the term Foreplay brought me to numerous articles in Men’s magazines about “why women want it” or “how to give good foreplay.” Is it possible some men aren’t familiar with the concept of foreplay, or maybe just don’t know …

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Hope For Vaginismus

Suffering from sexual dysfunction is often a lonely struggle, especially for women who have primary vaginismus. It’s hard for the average person to imagine a couple being together for years and not be able to have intercourse. It sounds like a strange, bizarre phenomenon that can’t happen to modern, wordly, successful people who are in …

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Mindfulness for Better Sex?

Mindfulness meditation is now being offered as a treatment for a wealth of medical issues, including: depression, anxiety and chronic pain to name a few. While it sounds nice, what is Mindfulness? Mindfulness is about maintaining a moment to moment awareness of our thoughts, feelings, bodily sensations, and surrounding environment. It is also about acceptance, …

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It’s About Time!

Since when has sex become a competitive sport?  Is there an imaginary command in our psyches saying “on your mark, get set, go “ and a judge timing  us at the finish line?  We worry about what is the “normal” amount of time for a sexual encounter. Patients at Congtythamtu bring this concern up  from …

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Celebrities- They Are Just Like Us!

I recently read that the Academy of Motion Picture Arts and Sciences is suing the marketing firm that produced this years’ “Oscars goodie bags.” I admit I was curious to know, what’s in the bag? Each year, Oscar nominees take home the “Mother” of gift bags! So, the cat is out of the bag- along with …

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Getting Help Can Be Scary, But We’re Here To Help

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom” – Anaïs Nin If getting help for sexual issues was easy, people would be getting help quicker.  It wouldn’t take months, years, and even decades to find solutions and much pain would …

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I Am So Sexy- Playlist

While I do lament that the days of the mixed tape are over, I have to say Spotify and Sound Cloud have proven to be pretty great replacements. Creating your own personal “Soundtrack” or “Play List” is not only free on these sites, but a great way to think about what songs make you feel …

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