“What Choice Do I Have?!”

Choices, selections, options, plans, alternatives, opportunities. The common denominator of all these words is change.  We have been labeled as a disposable society where it is often easier and more efficient to discard what is broken rather than repair it. We can argue over whether that is indeed a good state of affairs, but for …

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“Dear Stress, Let’s Break Up.”

When it comes to relationships, breaking up is hard to do! Even writing a Dear John letter to stress takes practice, determination, and maybe even some tears. There are many breathing exercises that can help with saying goodbye to stress. Here’s one I recently came across in Real Simple Magazine: When your negative voice gets …

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Grieving Sex

Grief is an experience that is hard to quantify or explain.  It doesn’t work in the usual confines of time and space.  It’s a unique experience, yet shared by humanity.  The New York Times recently published an article on grieving a sex life after a partner dies. It was an important conversation starter.  I thought …

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Haters Gonna Love!

We have all heard the phrase “opposites attract”, but it’s been my experience that finding common ground and sharing core values makes for ultimate compatibility. Enter ‘Hater’, a new dating app where “you can meet someone who hates the same stuff”! The app was thought up by Brendan Alper after he read a 2006 study …

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Riding through Life

Among the many myths that come along with marriage is the notion that once the search is over, the work over.  That once you finally find that person, you can take a breath of relief, because the hard part is behind you.    Some people experience some ‘beginner’s luck’ in the beginning of a relationship: …

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Sexual Assault Awareness Month

Mariska Hargitay also known as Olivia Benson of Law and Order SVU, did not set out to become an advocate for survivors of sexual assault, but after receiving thousands of letters, emails and calls from sexual assault survivors disclosing to her that her character as a police detective on the TV show gave them the …

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Word of the day: PHUBBING

As a fan of “word of the day,” I discovered a new one: “Phubbing.” Phubbing is when your partner is snubbing you by constantly checking their phone when they are with you. I feel that computers, although amazing, necessary, and beneficial, cause people to isolate themselves. Now we are joined by the Smartphone which can be damaging to …

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Please, Please Me!

While phones can have a negative impact on your sex life with all the beeps and buzzes that going off, and never mind the black hole that is watching cat videos.   What if your phone could help you get into bed, and get the sex you want?  A free App called PlsPlsMe (Please Please Me) …

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Timed Conversations

Listening isn’t an easy task for many of us. It comes more naturally for some than others. One thing I recently noticed is that the word “listen” has the letters “s-i-l-e-n-t “in it. Borrowing from an article titled “How to be a Better Listener,” by Erika Kleinman which appeared in the Lenny Newsletter, there is …

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Resolve Nothing

As a new year begins, we often here people speak about their “New Year’s Resolutions.”  More often than not these resolutions are about changing something about yourself. Popular ones include: losing weight, getting to the gym more often, eating healthy, etc.  But what if we stopped and thought for a moment about what we like …

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