A New Insight into Date Rape

I used to have a difficult time understanding how a situation would occur where the woman felt she had been raped and the man felt that the sex had been consensual. (I am excluding situations in which one person is lying. I am addressing here those situations where both parties are acting as honest brokers …

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Imagine…

Imagine if you could tell someone how you really feel when they ask, “how are you?” Imagine if there wasn’t shame in having relationship challenges. Imagine if there was more normalizing in getting help. Imagine if you looked in the mirror and thought, hey, I’m good just the way I am. Imagine if people loved …

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Affirmative

Back in the day I laughed at Chris Farley’s character Stuart Smalley on SNL and his affirmation “Because I’m good enough. I’m smart enough. And doggone it, people like me”.  I laughed, but I also learned. Affirmations are powerful and can help change our state of mind, our mood and give us a sense of …

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Just Write!

We are fortunate that there are so many therapeutic methods to choose from. One of my favorites is the practice of “therapeutic journal writing”. Writing things down can mitigate tension as writing about powerful emotions helps release the intensity of these feelings. It also helps clarify our thoughts and feelings and illuminates the issue we …

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Haters Gonna Love!

We have all heard the phrase “opposites attract”, but it’s been my experience that finding common ground and sharing core values makes for ultimate compatibility. Enter ‘Hater’, a new dating app where “you can meet someone who hates the same stuff”! The app was thought up by Brendan Alper after he read a 2006 study …

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Riding through Life

Among the many myths that come along with marriage is the notion that once the search is over, the work over.  That once you finally find that person, you can take a breath of relief, because the hard part is behind you.    Some people experience some ‘beginner’s luck’ in the beginning of a relationship: …

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Sexuality without the Fear

On the hit TV show “Grace and Frankie” Lily Tomlin and Jane Fonda are two post-menopausal women who have recently become single, and while negotiating their new lives as single women, the topics of sex and sexuality often arise.  In a recent article about the show, Lily Tomlin was asked how she would like to …

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Sexual Assault Awareness Month

Mariska Hargitay also known as Olivia Benson of Law and Order SVU, did not set out to become an advocate for survivors of sexual assault, but after receiving thousands of letters, emails and calls from sexual assault survivors disclosing to her that her character as a police detective on the TV show gave them the …

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One Heart, Many Genders

I recently watched the mini-series “When We Rise”. The show follows the true life individual and political histories of various LGBT activists who were instrumental in the US civil rights movement. Going back further in our country’s history, I learned that all Native American societies acknowledged three to five gender roles : Female, male, Two …

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Ditch The Label: Video

I recently watched this video and thought it did a great job illustrating the effect that social media has on our lives and how it has, in some ways, turned us into 24/7 PR representatives for ourselves.  There are many merits to technology and social media, and the fact that we no longer need to …

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