In a Fight with Your Vagina

Imagine a friend who starts flaking on your plans with no real explanation.  After a continued pattern, you get fed up and decide that you are no longer going to make any plans with her and set yourself up for disappointment. There may have been positive memories of the past, times where you really enjoyed …

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When simple things become VERY, VERY AWFUL

It may be due to Vulvar and Vaginal Atrophy (VVA), a chronic and progressive medical condition that affects many menopausal women. Approximately 1 in 2 menopausal women in the United States experience VVA. VVA is caused by decreased estrogen production. Women may spend an average of one-third of their lives in this hypoestrogenic state. The …

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Out of the Box

Sigmund Freud was an Austrian neurologist and one of the most influential thinkers in the field of psychology today. Among his contributions to the field is the formulation of what are called ‘defense mechanisms’.  In lay terms, defense mechanisms are internal “security guards” inside of us whose goal is to protect us from experiencing pain and …

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Why does tensing your body during sex cause more pain?

Tensing your body during sex can either be a means to generating pleasure or a reaction to experiencing pain. If you’re interested in the pleasure aspect, read our blog on that topic. However, if you’re tensing your body because sex is painful, read on. This is something many women have experienced. Sometimes it is a …

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MonaLisa Touch: Is It Right For You?

Millions of women experience changes in their vaginal health that interfere with their personal lives during the post-menopause years. These changes are the result of decreased estrogen. Problems include vaginal laxity, decreased lubrication, painful intercourse, urinary incontinence, pouty labia and fissures at the opening of the vagina. Many women suffer in silence. Those who seek …

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The Perk of Predictability

Sometimes unpredictability makes life more fun, adventurous, and interesting. But when it comes to sexual dysfunction, unpredictability can intensify the emotional pain and lead to continued avoidance and distance.  When you can’t trust that your body and mind will show up for sex the way you hope, it may make you want to say, why …

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Intrarosa- Treatment for Post-Menopausal Pain

There is a new drug out there for the treatment of post-menopausal pain with intercourse called Intrarosa. It was recently approved by the FDA and adds yet another treatment option for women that are experiencing the painful effects of postmenopausal vaginal atrophy. It is a daily use vaginal insert. This new treatment would be for …

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You May Not Need Surgery for Your Vestibulodynia!!

If you have been suffering with vestibulodynia, or chronic vulvar pain at the entrance of the vagina, we feel for you. It’s a condition about which little was known until recently and we’ve seen patients who have spent years going from doctor to doctor, trying treatment after treatment and getting little to no relief. But …

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Is it Vulvodynia or Vaginismus?

When a woman goes to her doctor for sexual pain or the inability to have any form of penetration, they are often diagnosed with vulvodynia and not vaginismus. This is such an important subject that I would like to share with you some of the posts, as well as my responses, from our Vaginismus Forum on this topic. …

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