In a Fight with Your Vagina

Imagine a friend who starts flaking on your plans with no real explanation.  After a continued pattern, you get fed up and decide that you are no longer going to make any plans with her and set yourself up for disappointment. There may have been positive memories of the past, times where you really enjoyed …

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In hookups, inequality still reigns.

Here’s the deal. A NY Times article talks about how more young women are willingly taking part in hook-ups. But then, they go on to report, many times women aren’t comfortable asking for what they want. As a result, often they get no pleasure or they don’t have an orgasm. Oddly, the article then says: …

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Teaching about vibrators.

One of the parts of my job that I think is the most fun is teaching women about vibrators. As part of our treatment protocol, particularly for women who are having difficulty having orgasms, we introduce women to vibrators. Many women have tried one or two over the course of their lives. Some women try …

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Treating orgasm issues.

“In 1,749 randomly-sampled U.S. women, 24% reported an orgasmic dysfunction.” I think it is helpful to see the statistics on how often anorgasmia occurs because many women think they are alone in facing this issue. Often women we see at the Center feel unclear about exactly what an orgasm is. Orgasms are different for every …

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Orgasms can extend your life — part 2.

The previous blog entry talked about the health benefits of orgasms for men. What are the health benefits of orgasms for Women? There are many. In a 2002 study of 293 women, a psychologist found that “sexually active participants whose male partners did not use condoms were less subject to depression than those whose partners …

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We are here for you.

In a recent blog post, The Medical Center for Female Sexuality asked to hear from you, the readers. Here is one of the questions we received: Question: I am 19 years old and have been with my boyfriend for over a year. He is 22 and like any normal young man, his sex drive is …

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Orgasms can extend life!

I have actually discovered several different studies that prove this point. The one that seems the most thorough was done in 1997. It was titled Sex and Death: are they related? Findings from the Caerphilly Cohort Study, by Davey, Frankel and Yarnell. It was published in the British Medical Journal. In this article, 918 men …

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“The Female Brain.”

The Female Brain, by Louann Brizendine is definitely worth reading. Brizendine completed her degree in Neurobiology at UC Berkeley, graduated from Yale School of Medicine and did her internship and residency at Harvard Medical School. She founded the Women’s Mood and Hormone Clinic in 1994 and continues to serve as the clinic’s director. The Female …

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How long is too long?

I am referring to how long penetration should optimally last. Many women I see at the Center have pain with intercourse. Pain during intercourse can come from many things: dryness, low hormone levels, vaginismus and/or vulvodynia. Sometimes pain is simply the result of intercourse lasting too long. So when I see a patient who is …

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Faking it.

Many theories exist about why one might fake an orgasm. In a recent study discussed on CBS News, a researcher at Columbia University found that women fake it to retain their mates. Dr Kaighobadi, who conducted the study (the study can be found in the November issue of the Archives of Sexual Behavior), calls it …

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