Fantasies… Fantasies… Fantasies…

When I fantasize about something, does that mean that I really want that thing to happen? (I get asked this all the time!) NO. No. And no. All it means is that you like to fantasize about that activity/act/event. Now, very commonly women get upset about their fantasies because they think that they are not …

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The Perk of Predictability

Sometimes unpredictability makes life more fun, adventurous, and interesting. But when it comes to sexual dysfunction, unpredictability can intensify the emotional pain and lead to continued avoidance and distance.  When you can’t trust that your body and mind will show up for sex the way you hope, it may make you want to say, why …

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Did You Know?

In our center, we often discuss—with our patients and amongst the staff– the myths and misconceptions people have around relationships and sexuality.  But it’s hard to be aware of it, because you don’t know what you don’t know. And with the abundance of inaccurate sexual information all over the place, it’s difficult to get the …

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Sex in a New World

So, you’re single again. The last time you thought about sleeping with someone you were wondering how to muffle the snoring. The idea of sex was just that, an idea. You never imagined thinking about STDs and lingerie again! The good news is you get to date again. The even better news is that you …

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Female Orgasms: As Unique as a Snowflakes

The decades old myth that clitoral orgasms are not “as good” as vaginal orgasms continues to pervade popular culture. However, a new clinical study has taken a different approach to “categorizing female orgasms” and studied physiologic sexual responses in women.  In their article entitled “The Whole versus the sum of the parts: towards resolving the …

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How to Have an Orgasm

There are so many books on how to have an orgasm that I sometimes feel I could start an orgasm library, you know, a whole library with just books on orgasm. Some of the books are great and helpful. Some of them, less so. But when I’m talking to women about becoming orgasmic, there are …

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An evolutionary approach to Orgasm?

Since I have started working in this field I’ve been fascinated by the science behind the development of female orgasm. And frankly, I think I’ve read every book available on the subject. I’ve never really found any of the current theories convincing. Well the NY Times recently did a piece on a new scientific theory …

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