Motherhood and Sex

Very often patients will tell us that before they had children they thought about sex, enjoyed sex, were adventurous sexually. And then they became a mom.  And the lights went out. Being a mom and a sexual being is not an oxymoron.  But for many women it is, and how you conceptualize the effect of …

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Addyi (flibanserin) Update

Addyi will be available in pharmacies on October 17th. The medical staff at Congtythamtu is all set to prescribe Addyi. We have passed the required exams and are certified prescribers. We are looking forward to offering this medication when we feel it is appropriate. It does seem this medication works best for women who had …

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So far away.

By the time many of our patients walk through our door, sex has become a sore subject in their relationships. Feeling sexually distant from a partner can manifest in various ways, and patients have shared descriptions that tend to come down to the same idea: We live in the same place and share so much, …

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Stood up by your sex life.

Imagine you have a close friend with whom you’ve enjoyed years of good times. Some years were better than others, but you knew that no matter what, when you called on this friend or made plans, she showed up. Then one day you get stood up. She doesn’t call, she doesn’t write. Nada. That’s weird, …

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Let’s talk about sex.

I treat many women with different issues from low desire to painful intercourse. One issue that women seem to struggle a great deal with is feeling insecure or inadequate. This can have a profound impact on one’s sexuality because instead of feeling confident and positive, when these things surface it often shuts a woman down. …

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A bridge to connection.

With the increase in awareness around emotional issues and the benefits of therapy treatment, the stigma associated with seeking therapy has declined over time. In urban areas, especially in New York City, it’s not uncommon to be at a social gathering and hear a peer share a revelation she had in her therapy session, or …

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Sex and Chinese food.

The other day I was talking to a patient who originally came in for the treatment of low desire and painful intercourse. A few months into her treatment, her relationship with her husband has transformed and she is feeling more satisfied in her marriage as a result. When we were discussing her progress, she said …

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What does low desire look like?

We see women all the time with “low desire.” Some practitioners are confused by “low desire” because how can you measure the absence of something? And how does a woman know if her low desire is a problem? Women who at one time had a strong desire for sex are more likely to be able …

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