In All This Sex Talk, Let’s Not Forget About Love

We don’t speak to our kids enough about sex, but you know what? We don’t speak to them enough about love either. And, if you would like those topics to be somewhat connected for your children,  then you (the parents) really need to be talking to your kids about both!  According to a report released today by Harvard …

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Making A Commitment To Love Yourself

Learning to love yourself may be harder than learning to love someone else. And having a great sex life when you don’t love yourself – well that can be tricky. So here are some things to think about as we approach Valentine’s Day: When you find yourself berating yourself for something you did or didn’t …

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How to fall in love.

I love this article in the New York Times about how to fall in love. I love it because it describes exactly what I see day after day in my office. I often see couples in distress when they arrive but slowly with each passing session and week, I see them often start to choose …

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A course on how to love?

An interesting article was published recently in the New York Times proposing that it might be beneficial for college age students to attend a class about how to love. Many might think this is ridiculous but a lot of research is showing that the future generations are plugged in to screens and not each other. …

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The Grant Study: Happiness is love.

The Grant study is one of the longest running longitudinal studies of human development — an astonishing 75 years! In an effort to determine which factors contribute most strongly to human flourishing this study measures an astonishing range of psychological, anthropological and physical traits. Some of these traits range from personality type to IQ, drinking habits, family …

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“The Secret Lives of Wives.”

The Secret Lives of Wives, by Iris Krasnow is a pretty interesting exploration of long term marriage where she investigates marriages that last between 15 and 70 years . She has also written books called, Surrendering to Marriage and Surrendering to Motherhood. Krasnow is a journalist by training. The book is an easy read because …

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Inifidelity at the office — and how to avoid It.

Yes, it could happen to you. You’re human. Because they’re there. The most common reason romantic love happens with coworkers is simply because they’re there. We spend a lot of time at work — often more total time with our coworkers than our family members. That’s just the reality of the modern workplace. We’re built …

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When ‘we’ starts to feel like ‘me’.

If you’ve ever played doubles in tennis, you know the intricacies of what it means to be on a two-person team. You practice strategy. You capitalize on your personal strengths. You communicate. You make adjustments when necessary. And you’ve got each other’s back. But let’s say your tennis partner’s deficits become too much for you …

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Sex = Love?

Does sex equal love in a romantic relationship? Okay — most people would roll their eyes if you asked them that. OF COURSE sex does not equal love. Sex is sex and love is love. Yet… when one partner does not want to have sex with the other partner, there can often get translated into …

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