My Neighbor, Myself — Loving Both

The Biblical verse “You shall love your neighbor as yourself,” has been drummed into many of us.  What especially strikes me in my work at Congtythamtu Women’s Health is that we can easily be a good friend to others but ironically, self-compassion is hard to come by. A useful exercise to move away from self-criticism …

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Self-talk your way to Happiness

We all want to be happy, but the truth is that happiness does not just happen.  Just like most things in life we need to figure out a plan and recognize what does and does not bring happiness into our lives.  We cannot be happy all of the time, but we can objectively step back …

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No “Normal” Down There

Why is it that so many of us go through our lives without looking deeply at our sexual self? There are few aspects of our lives that produce as much shame as sexuality, and the need to be “normal.”  Society has created this mythical notion of what is “normal” or “ideal.”  The normal weight, the …

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Making A Commitment To Love Yourself

Learning to love yourself may be harder than learning to love someone else. And having a great sex life when you don’t love yourself – well that can be tricky. So here are some things to think about as we approach Valentine’s Day: When you find yourself berating yourself for something you did or didn’t …

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