On Kissing

Why we kiss. How we kiss. When we kiss. You never knew that kissing could be so complicated. But it really is! Whether kissing is a prelude to sex, a way to assess your potential partner or not connected to sex but merely a way to stay intimate has been studied for years. And honestly, …

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The pajama party.

I did a television interview last week. It was totally fun and totally unusual. It involved sitting on a waterbed. I kid you not. So here’s the premise — this new talk show has a bunch (four, to be precise) of absolutely adorable 20-somethings in PJ’s sitting around talking about sex. And me. Just to set …

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Better sex: How do you choose a mate?

“Females use kissing to provide information about the level of commitment of their partner if they happen to be in a continuing relationship”, Gallup told the BBC in September. “Locking lips is thus a kind of emotional barometer: the more enthusiastic it is the healthier the relationship. Because women need to invest more energy in …

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Kissing, Part 3 — Why stop?

I have been actively looking for the answer to why people stop kissing. I love research, particularly medical and psychological journals, because I love to read and I really like to know the answers to why things are the way they are. After searching literally everywhere, I found almost nothing. I can find statistics on …

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Kissing Part 2 — Anatomy of a kiss.

“Human lips enjoy the slimmest layer of skin on the human body, and the lips are among the most densely populated with sensory neurons of any body region. When we kiss the neurons, along with those in the tongue and mouth, rocket messages to the brain and body, setting off delightful sensations, intense emotions and …

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Kissing Part 1 — How often do you kiss?

A recent survey conducted by the British Heart Foundation found that, “one in five (18%) married people don’t pucker-up with their partner for an entire week, while two in five married people (40%) kiss for just five seconds or less when they get it on. Apparently Scots kiss the longest, for 28 seconds. And East …

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On learning to kiss and other fables.

A woman I know told me the following story which I thought was wonderful. She has been dating a guy for the past few months who (by all accounts) seems like a keeper. They have a lovely relationship. One day a week or two ago they were on the phone and he said, “You know, …

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