Vaginismus? Maybe you meant veganism.

One of our specialties at Congtythamtu is treating vaginismus.  Vaginismus is a condition where there is involuntary tightness of the vagina during attempted intercourse.  Women do not control the tightness, and many do not even realize this tightness is causing the tightness and pain with penetration. Most patients have been to see several other medical professional …

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An evolutionary approach to Orgasm?

Since I have started working in this field I’ve been fascinated by the science behind the development of female orgasm. And frankly, I think I’ve read every book available on the subject. I’ve never really found any of the current theories convincing. Well the NY Times recently did a piece on a new scientific theory …

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Life Can Be A Beach

When August rolls around, we in the Northeast feel the beginning of the end of summer. Back to school commercials blare. Here’s one way to hold onto the magic of summer: I recently had a cocktail aptly named “Sex on the Beach”. It was first served in 1987 in Florida. Even though I was nowhere near the beach while …

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Open to Heal

We walk around sharing varying forms of ourselves depending on the situation we are in, who we are with, and how we are feeling inside.  Often we are not even conscious of the choice to adjust the level of disclosure and openness we exhibit; sometimes we are aware we are doing it but much of …

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Age Is Just A Number

We live in a culture that tends to look at sex as something for the young; that as you get older, you shrivel up, no longer have sex, and just sit around doing crossword puzzles.  Studies have indicated otherwise; many senior citizens continue to have sex and want to have a vibrant sex life.  Lately …

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Birth Control Made Easy

Thanks to recent advances in technology, so many things can be ordered and executed while we are in our PJs. Currently, in both New York as well as California, (with plans to include other states) birth control can be obtained using an app called Nurx. Here is more information about this in an article entitled, …

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Shift Happens

Sometimes relationship issues manifest in a dramatic, easy-to-see fashion. But in many cases they don’t and it can take time to notice the degree to which things have changed.  I often hear couples talk about “living like roommates”; sharing living quarters, expenses, and in some cases, children, but connecting to each other in a way …

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Will Routine Pelvic Exams Continue To Be Routine?

I recently read an article in NYTimes.com by Roni Caryn Rubin, entitled “Pelvic Exams May Not Be Needed”. I have always embraced the belief that less is more, but not necessarily when it comes to health and disease prevention. This article analyzes the pros and cons of pelvic exams. It is currently standard that gyn …

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Yes Mike, there is a G –Spot.

Last week, while teaching a basic HIV prevention class to a group of 8th  graders it came to question time and a hand immediately went up from the back of the class, stretched as high as possible. I expected one of the usual questions: “Is it better to use 2 condoms? Where does HIV come …

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