Lybrido — Are we making up the problem?

The New York Times recently ran an article about female libido and the race to develop a drug (Lybrido) that would help women want sex. There are so many arguments these days about women’s libidos. There are angry therapists, frustrated drug companies, sad women and lots and lots of confusion. Some therapists argue that drug …

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Lack of a message IS a message.

In our work treating female sexual dysfunction, we often see the same phenomenon take place: A woman will come to us for treatment after years of suffering from an issue that prevents her from having an enjoyable sex life. The issue could be anything from low desire, poor arousal, inability to orgasm or painful intercourse. …

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Have the sex life you desire.

Daniel Bergner, is a contributor for the New York Times Magazine and author of several books including, The Other Side of Desire, which I loved. He just wrote a new book which was released last week, What do Women Want? Adventures in the Science of Female Desire. An excerpt from the book just appeared in …

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Monogamy and desire.

Author Esther Perel wrote the book, Mating in Captivity, in 2006. This is a great book for looking at the complicated relationship between long term monogamy and ongoing desire. Perel articulately explores how often our longing for stability and comfort can annihilate passion and desire. Perel furthered her research by traveling the world and asking …

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The Coolidge Effect.

“The Coolidge Effect” is a term coined by Ethologist Frank A. Beach, a researcher, known for his studies in psychobiological brain functions and sexual behavior in mammals. In 1955, Beach was at a psychology conference where he was presenting his recent findings on a study on the reproductive behaviors of rats. One of his students …

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Injections for the Vagina?

Vaginismus is a condition in which the muscles in the vagina spasm involuntarily preventing vaginal penetration. This involuntary spasm can prevent women from inserting a tampon, undergoing speculum exams and having intercourse. Vaginismus is a major cause for unconsummated marriages. The cause of vaginismus is unknown, however fear, anxiety and pain can be contributing factors. …

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Inspiration.

I am often inspired by my patients, by their courage to face their issues, by their commitment to the process of getting better and often by their fearlessness to do things that are completely foreign and that make them feel incredibly uncomfortable. I saw a patient yesterday who did all of the above. When we …

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Give the chubby guy a chance.

We were sitting with a patient yesterday. We love this patient. She’s funny, warm, smart and quite pretty. She, like so many of our patients, struggles mightily with her feelings of sexual inadequacy. “I don’t think I’m sexy enough.” “I don’t feel like I know enough.” “I’m just not pretty enough.” These are the kinds …

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