Why Couples Therapy Needs To Talk About Sex

If I had a dollar for every time I’ve heard of a couple in couples therapy with a therapist who never asked about sex, let’s just say I’d have many, many dollars. Yes, therapy should begin where the client is, and if a couple goes to therapy for a specific issue supposedly unrelated to sex, …

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Is couples therapy really about creating better communication?

Is couples therapy really about better communication? No! It is not. This is a commonly held misconception. A therapist named Linda Engelman wrote an excellent article on her blog called, “Four Reasons Communication skills wont save your relationship.” The gist is that the best communication in the world won’t heal the wounds that partners in …

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Eye matters.

I think you can feel seen and known and loved when someone really looks you in the eye. A recent article in the New York Times titled, “Pssst. Look Over Here” by Kate Murphy, explores the importance of eye . “Only actual eye fully activates those parts of the brain that allow us to …

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The Ziegarnik Effect.

John Gottman’s new book “What Makes Love Last” focuses on trust and betrayal. John Gottman is a couples therapist who does a great deal of research on what enables couples to maintain long term intimacy. He has written several books and this is his latest. In his book he discusses the Ziegarnik Effect. In the …

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Things I hate.

Things I Hate Okay — I think I’m going to start a list of things I hate or that make my blood boil. I figure one of the advantages of having a blog is being able to vent, right? So here’s something I hate. I hate couples therapists who are not comfortable dealing with sex!! You know, it …

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Tips for selecting a sex therapist.

At the Center we treat women who suffer from various conditions that prevent them from having satisfying sex lives. Our goal is to uncover the physical causes of these conditions and treat them medically. On staff at the Center are human sexuality counselors who conduct a psycho-sexual intake before a patient’s physical exam. Through this …

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