It’s About Time!

Since when has sex become a competitive sport?  Is there an imaginary command in our psyches saying “on your mark, get set, go “ and a judge timing  us at the finish line?  We worry about what is the “normal” amount of time for a sexual encounter. Patients at Congtythamtu bring this concern up  from …

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NY Post and kosher sex.

In the New York Post this week there was an article about a new online site selling vibrators to the religious Jewish community. I love to see vibrators in mass media publications; the fact that there was a wide range of opinions discussed in the article from within that community adds even more value. At …

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Sex and the vibrator movie.

I admit it. I have been waiting all my life (okay, maybe just the last 10 years) for someone to make a quality film about the incredibly interesting history of vibrators. Really. I’m not kidding. And finally, someone is doing it. (Well, I can’t actually vouch that it’s quality, but it is a real film). …

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Newlywed’s guide to intimacy.

In my work at the Center I frequently see “Torah observant” women who are struggling with sexual and relationship issues in a new marriage. They are from a community where certain rules and rituals must be observed. A new book called The Newlywed’s Guide to Physical Intimacy has just come out by Jennie Rosenfeld, PhD …

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Adversity and desire.

It happens all the time. A tearful, distraught woman sits down and informs us that: Her husband is leaving her/has left her. Her husband is having/was having an affair. She believes this is due to the fact that they haven’t had sex in (you fill in the blank: 6 months, 1 year, 2 years, 5 …

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How to talk to your partner about using a vibrator.

Occasionally, women feel nervous about introducing a vibrator into their relationship. Sometimes their partners express that they don’t feel comfortable with it. This is particularly challenging for our clients who have never had orgasms because they may require additional stimulation which oral or manual stimulation can not provide. In these instances I try to explain to both the woman and …

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On scheduling sex — when you have kids.

Often times I’ll tell patients with children that they need to schedule specific times for sex. They will look at me quizzically, not quite getting what I am suggesting. “Good sex” in our society is so often synonymous with “spontaneous sex,” that to suggest scheduling sex, is almost like suggesting sex with your clothes on. …

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