Therapy and Menstruation

As a therapist, I am often wary to ask my patients too many questions during our first visit. I know it is hard enough to open yourself up to someone new, and answer the many questions necessary to get to know someone in a therapeutic context. However, more and more I am starting to realize …

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Pressure.

Everyone experiences it, and these days, it’s like we’re all living in one giant, steamy, anxiety-inducing, Instant Pot (no disrespect, Instant Pot – I am truly, madly and deeply in love with you). No one’s immune, not the elderly, not millennials – not even preschoolers. I heard a mom call in to a radio show …

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Dyspareunia

“What is Dyspareunia” has probably not been an answer on Jeopardy, but I could be wrong. Dyspareunia is a general term that describes any pain during sexual intercourse. Symptoms can include: pain upon penetration, sudden pain after intercourse, deep pain during thrusting, and burning pain anywhere in the pelvis. It is essentially a “basket” diagnosis, as it …

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To Do

Especially around Holiday time we have so much happening and our To-Do list can begin to look like The Gettysburg Address! Take a breath and take note of The Real To – Do List: Sing Smile Keep learning Notice kindness Eat well Hope Count your blessings Laugh Love Love some more Keep adding to this …

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Living Life in Shades of Gray

Many of us tend to “split” and see life and ourselves as either good or bad, right or wrong, smart or dull, fair or unfair, or one extreme or the other.  This is called “black and white thinking “and we generally engage in it to give us a sense of control and familiarity. In truth, …

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The Orgasm Gap… What Gives?

We’ve long been familiar with the gender wage gap; we hear about it regularly in the mainstream media and may even discuss it with our family and friends. But in recent years, a new ‘gender gap’ has started to receive more focus and attention – the orgasm gap. Sociologists and researchers have been increasingly interested …

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9 Benefits of Bioidentical Estrogen

Postmenopausal hormone replacement is more than just resolving hot flashes. Estrogen affects everything from your skin to your brain. This is a great article highlighting some of the important effects of estrogen. If you are postmenopausal and struggling with these symptoms, schedule an appointment with your provider to see if you are a good candidate …

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How to Have Sex When the Kids are Home

I recently got a card from my husband that was perfect. It had a picture of two teenagers sneaking off to the basement to have sex while their parents watch TV in the next room. The second panel had a picture of two middle-aged parents sneaking off to have sex while their teenagers watched TV …

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Vibrators for the Holidays

Holiday shopping can be both fun, and stressful at the same time.  Many people want to get just “the right gift,” or making sure that the person will be surprised at the uniqueness of their gift.  So how about a vibrator?  There are literally hundreds of vibrators on the market, and numerous websites selling them …

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All You Need Is Self – Love!

A common theme I hear from women who come to Congtythamtu Women’s Sexual Health is how it’s so much easier for them to give to their partners than it is to receive. Of course there is more to this than meets the eye, but it got me thinking that many women aren’t “talented receivers”. Is …

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