Cleaning Under the Rug

One of the most common challenges facing relationships is finding time and communication avenues to explore issues that are difficult to speak about. Consequently, issues get swept under the rug, though they continue to fester and prop up at various moments.  Sex is one of those topics that couples struggle with creating a space to …

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I Choose To Not Be Unhappy

While we cannot choose everything, we do or feel in life, we do need to remind ourselves that we do have the capacity to choose and regulate how we feel from moment to moment more than we might think.  Depression is real, and you cannot simply choose to “no longer be depressed.”  Therapy, medication and …

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National Happiness Happens Day

August 8 was National Happiness Happens day. Founded in 1999 by the Secret Society of Happy People as Admit you’re Happy Day. Happiness happens was created to spread the joy of being happy and to persuade people to look on the brighter side of life. Seeing the glass as half full not half empty and …

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Finding Friendship

August 6 was International Friendship Day! I have written about a variety of dating apps and wouldn’t you know, there are friendship apps as well. As we move past college and experience life changes it becomes harder for women to develop friendships. Here are a few apps to help us make new friends: Hey! VINA …

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You’re More Beautiful Than You Think

Dove has done some amazing work in helping women feel better about their bodies. This experiment is one of my favorite ones. It really highlights how much body image can be distorted, and what happens for people when they become aware of it in an obvious way.  Having a good sex life is more than …

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Enjoying Sex with Vaginismus

So much energy and frustration is given to not being able to have intercourse with vaginismus, that many forget that sex is not just intercourse. While being treated for vaginismus and wanting to be able to have intercourse is a very important part of sexuality, there is more to sex than intercourse. Often, when I …

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Husbands watch Porn. Husbands Despair. Why?

I’m constantly stunned by the assertions people make about porn-watching with little to no data and very limited knowledge. I am also struck by all of the assumptions people make about people who watch porn. Here is an excellent piece written by a terrific colleague-therapist on one aspect of the “porn conundrum.” Wives of porn …

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“What Choice Do I Have?!”

Choices, selections, options, plans, alternatives, opportunities. The common denominator of all these words is change.  We have been labeled as a disposable society where it is often easier and more efficient to discard what is broken rather than repair it. We can argue over whether that is indeed a good state of affairs, but for …

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5 Myths About Female Sexuality

There are far too many myths about female sexuality, most of which are outdated and blown way out of proportion. Here are 5 Myths About Female Sexuality debunked! If you think you’re suffering from sexual dysfunction, request a free 10 minute phone consultation. MYTH 1 Most women have orgasms from vaginal intercourse Even as I write …

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The Myriad of New Sexual “Labels”

The NY Times recently did an article on Sapiosexuals – people’s whose erotic response is triggered by smart people. I could relate. I suppose I’m a heterosexual sapiosexual, I’m turned on by really smart men.  But it got me thinking about all the myriad of new sexual “labels”. Here’s a comprehensive list.  People who are attracted …

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