Libido: Easy Come Easy Go

Where did my libido go? This is a very common question we get at Congtythamtu Women’s Health. Often decreased libido is associated with pregnancy, early parenting or menopause. It is important to remember that 90% of sex occurs between the ears, not between the sheets. What goes on beneath the sheets is a reflection of …

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Transdermal vs. Oral Estrogen for Menopause

For the treatment of menopausal symptoms, I have always preferred using the estrogen patch as opposed to oral estrogen (oral conjugated equine estrogens). With the patch, which allows a continuous delivery of estrogen, you don’t see the same fluctuations of estrogen as you do with the oral pill.  The absorption through the skin bypasses the …

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Make Sex Normal

How often do you think about sex? The best answer –as often as possible. This is the message behind a new website called Make Sex Normal. Make Sex Normal was created by Debby Herbenick PhD a sex educator at the Kinsey Institute. When sex is made normal it implies that sex is totally devoid of …

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Another Attack on Healthy Sexuality

There are numerous things that continue to surprise me as a therapist. I have worked with hundreds of sexual assault survivors for over ten years, and very few ever reported the assaults.  There are numerous reasons for that, but one reason that continues to shock me is the shame these individuals feel in disclosing the …

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You May Not Need The Vestibulodynia Surgery After All!

So you’ve been told you need surgery for your Vestibulodynia. Maybe you do. And maybe you don’t.  A new treatment protocol might make that surgery unnecessary. Provoked Vestibuloydynia (PVD) is clinically defined as chronic, unexplained, vulvar pain or discomfort in the vulvar area in response to any type of pressure.  The pain may be in …

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September Is PCOS Awareness Month

Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome or (PCOS) is a hormonal disorder causing enlarged ovaries with tiny cysts on the outer edges of the ovaries. The ovaries often fail to release eggs causing women to be anovulatory and thus infertile. PCOS requires a medical diagnosis with lab tests and sonographic imaging. The cause of PCOS is not well …

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Women’s Sex Toys: Made by Women for Women

The movement to get more women and girls into science and technology has created the successful STEM movement (Science Technology Engineering Mathematics), and the acronym STEM is becoming more and more popular and known nationwide. For centuries these fields have been dominated by men, however the last five years have shown real improvement in women …

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I’m Just A Girl Who Can Say No

Remember the song in the musical Oklahoma “I’m Just A Girl Who Can’t Say No”? Aldo Annie is a woman who simply couldn’t turn down male attention against her better judgement. Offstage, saying “No” is an essential skill in the dating/relationship arena and in most areas of our lives. What’s so hard about saying no, …

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Vaginismus: Not So Weird

Even after years of doing this work, it still pains me deeply to see the behind-the-scenes of a couple coping with vaginismus.  Vaginismus is one of those conditions that, upon hearing about it for the first time, sounds bizarre to people, some obscure condition you’d read about in a magazine or book. Can’t have sex? …

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The Upside Of Sexting

Sexting may have a bad rap because of certain notorious sexters, but when used within a relationship it can be advantageous to the couple. Research demonstrates that sexting has an affirmative effect on sexual satisfaction. Here’s how it works: When you share alluring remarks, fantasies or sexy images it creates anticipation and incites excitement which …

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