How to talk to your partner about using a vibrator.

Occasionally, women feel nervous about introducing a vibrator into their relationship. Sometimes their partners express that they don’t feel comfortable with it. This is particularly challenging for our clients who have never had orgasms because they may require additional stimulation which oral or manual stimulation can not provide. In these instances I try to explain to both the woman and …

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Two truths.

We saw a patient yesterday who made me think about two truths…one I had already “known” or at least had been conscious of; the other, not so much. The patient is a lively, beautiful mother of a 10 year old girl. She came to us two years ago because of her lack of libido — she …

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Sex and pregnancy — the male perspective.

A lot has been written about sex and pregnancy from the female perspective. Often women feel awful in the first trimester, better and possibly fabulous in the second trimester and huge in the third trimester. These are obviously generalizations, but on the whole this is what many women experience. And as these changes ebb and …

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Vibrators in the New York Times.

As a sex educator, it is exciting to see Vibrators covered in the New York Times. The journalist has pegged the piece to the new found presence of vibrators in regular drug stores. They are now sold at Duane Reade! This is a wonderful step because vibrators were and still are sometimes thought of as …

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Straightforward pictures for kids.

Under the heading of “giving kids straightforward and clear information,” this book, from Germany does just that! I think it could not be much clearer as to how a baby is conceived and born – and personally I think the pictures are cute to boot. So consider downloading it and keeping it for when your …

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Human sexual response.

Masters and Johnson (1970), the pioneering sex researchers, described a woman’s cycles of sexual arousal as having several phases. They believed that women moved through each phase in a linear fashion. They called this cycle the “human sexual response cycle.” The phases are described as: the excitement phase: this phase is marked by an elevated …

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Pain-free Intercourse in a Week

One of our recent botulinum toxin patients just had intercourse with her husband after 9 years of marriage. Pretty cool, no? She had been trying to have intercourse for years with no success. She tried traditional dilator therapy and though she could insert the smallest sizes, she felt pain when she got to the medium …

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Form and function.

An aspect of the female orgasm that I find compelling is why it even exists. Of course it makes sex profoundly more enjoyable. So from an evolutionary standpoint the more a woman wants to have sex the more her chances of procreating increase. However, unlike the male orgasm which is necessary for procreation, the female …

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Research on oral contraceptives.

Oral contraception and the vagina: I have a love/hate relationship with the pill! I love the fact that it allows women to have a sex life without worrying about pregnancy. I love the fact that it makes birth control fairly effortless and painless. I love the fact that it’s so easy to access. I hate …

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Orgasm: fact and fiction.

Since I started working at the Center I have grown increasingly interested in the female orgasm. Why are women and men obsessed with having an orgasm during intercourse when research has proven that only 33 percent of women can? What determines who can and who can’t? It turns out that genes play a big role …

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