When it comes to sex, lying is not a good idea!

Yesterday we saw a wonderful patient of ours. She originally came in because she felt like “there was something wrong with her.” She was having a difficult time having orgasms and, more often than not, she could not have them with a partner. We’ve worked with her for a while to help her understand that …

More

Birth control: what doctors never tell you.

If a patient comes to us with low desire or low arousal, one of the first questions we ask is, “Are you on birth control pills?” The reason we ask this is because oral contraceptives can wreak havoc on your system and can be particularly detrimental to your sexual desire. Yaz tends be the worst …

More

How much information is too much when it comes to sex?

A highly respected university professor just got into trouble when he had a live couple demonstrate use of a vibrator in front of his human sexuality class. According to the times the woman wanted to demonstrate female ejaculation. Wow. This certainly leads to many interesting questions and to be fair I’m just starting to think …

More

Embracing the masculine and the feminine.

I recently heard a lecture about the history of sexuality. The lecturer said he thought the greatest lovers of all times had a strong mix of masculine and feminine qualities. He cited Catherine the Great, Cleopatra, Marc Antony and Casanova. The men possessed a strong feminine side and the women a strong masculine side. At …

More

Turn that dial up.

Recently, researchers conducted a study on sexual desire in men and women. The results are of great interest to us and the work that we do here at the Center. Male and female subjects, individually, were asked to watch two movies while they were connected to devices designed to measure blood flow to the genitals, …

More

Weighing in on the film “Orgasm Inc.”

Once upon a time people couldn’t see. They bumped into walls, they had trouble reading, they saw double, they had horrible pain in their eyes and in the worst cases they went blind. This was a big problem and since this was a hundred years ago no one really had good language to use to …

More

An orgasm a day, keeps the doctor away?

We all know the old adage that “an apple a day will keep the doctor away” but did you know that there are health benefits associated with having orgasms? Scientific research is proving that orgasms are not only pleasurable but are good for our health and longevity. So, what are some of the health benefits …

More

Fighting for sexual freedom.

Fighting for Sexual Freedom I read an article a few weeks ago in the New York Times that has really stayed with me. It is about Eve Ensler’s center for female leadership in the Congo, called City of Joy. I first heard about playwright Eve Ensler, when I read her most well-known play the Vagina …

More

Things I hate.

Things I Hate Okay — I think I’m going to start a list of things I hate or that make my blood boil. I figure one of the advantages of having a blog is being able to vent, right? So here’s something I hate. I hate couples therapists who are not comfortable dealing with sex!! You know, it …

More

The chemistry of desire.

In her book, “Why We Love, The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love”, Helen Fisher, talks about the neuroscience of attraction. “Romantic love is associated with elevated levels of Dopamine and/or norepinephrine”. When dopamine is circulating in the brain, “it produces focused attention, as well as fierce energy, concentrated motivation to attain rewards, and feelings …

More