Straightforward pictures for kids.

Under the heading of “giving kids straightforward and clear information,” this book, from Germany does just that! I think it could not be much clearer as to how a baby is conceived and born – and personally I think the pictures are cute to boot. So consider downloading it and keeping it for when your …

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Human sexual response.

Masters and Johnson (1970), the pioneering sex researchers, described a woman’s cycles of sexual arousal as having several phases. They believed that women moved through each phase in a linear fashion. They called this cycle the “human sexual response cycle.” The phases are described as: the excitement phase: this phase is marked by an elevated …

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Pain-free Intercourse in a Week

One of our recent botulinum toxin patients just had intercourse with her husband after 9 years of marriage. Pretty cool, no? She had been trying to have intercourse for years with no success. She tried traditional dilator therapy and though she could insert the smallest sizes, she felt pain when she got to the medium …

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Form and function.

An aspect of the female orgasm that I find compelling is why it even exists. Of course it makes sex profoundly more enjoyable. So from an evolutionary standpoint the more a woman wants to have sex the more her chances of procreating increase. However, unlike the male orgasm which is necessary for procreation, the female …

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Research on oral contraceptives.

Oral contraception and the vagina: I have a love/hate relationship with the pill! I love the fact that it allows women to have a sex life without worrying about pregnancy. I love the fact that it makes birth control fairly effortless and painless. I love the fact that it’s so easy to access. I hate …

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Orgasm: fact and fiction.

Since I started working at the Center I have grown increasingly interested in the female orgasm. Why are women and men obsessed with having an orgasm during intercourse when research has proven that only 33 percent of women can? What determines who can and who can’t? It turns out that genes play a big role …

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Religion and sex.

Some religions think sex is a sin. Many do not. The frustrating thing is that even religions which do not have this view seem to have adopted aspects of this way of thinking. And it’s even more frustrating when people who do not consider themselves religious somehow absorb the idea that sex is sinful. Why? …

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“When Sex Seems Impossible.”

At the Center, I frequently see patients suffering from vaginismus. Vaginismus is a “female sexual dysfunction,” specifically a genital pain disorder. Vaginismus is defined by involuntary spasms of the vaginal muscles which interfere with sexual intercourse. It goes without saying that this condition causes distress and tension in a couple’s relationship. In my search to …

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Your partner is fine.

Your partner is FINE We are always amused when patients assume that the reason they can’t reach orgasm through intercourse is because they don’t have a skillful partner, or that somehow their partner doesn’t try hard enough. At the Center, we are well aware of the fact (and you see it all the time in …

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Mind reading.

We often think that our partners should be mind readers. We hope that they will intuit what we need and then give us that thing in the way we would like to get it. That is rarely the case. In truth, you need to teach someone how to love you. I hear our patients say,” …

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