Hormones: The base coat paint.

Plain and simple, hormones seem to be the base coat paint for our sexual functioning. They have such a significant impact on who we are and how we react to things that when they are low or missing or if we have too much, nothing really seems to go right. We can get anxious, moody, …

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Finding good pornography.

In the last few months I seem to be the envy of all the men I know. Straight, single, gay or married they all want to hear about why and how I get paid to watch pornography. It is actually a tiny part of what I do but to some it might seem the most …

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How to talk to your partner about using a vibrator.

Occasionally, women feel nervous about introducing a vibrator into their relationship. Sometimes their partners express that they don’t feel comfortable with it. This is particularly challenging for our clients who have never had orgasms because they may require additional stimulation which oral or manual stimulation can not provide. In these instances I try to explain to both the woman and …

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Two truths.

We saw a patient yesterday who made me think about two truths…one I had already “known” or at least had been conscious of; the other, not so much. The patient is a lively, beautiful mother of a 10 year old girl. She came to us two years ago because of her lack of libido — she …

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Sex and pregnancy — the male perspective.

A lot has been written about sex and pregnancy from the female perspective. Often women feel awful in the first trimester, better and possibly fabulous in the second trimester and huge in the third trimester. These are obviously generalizations, but on the whole this is what many women experience. And as these changes ebb and …

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Vibrators in the New York Times.

As a sex educator, it is exciting to see Vibrators covered in the New York Times. The journalist has pegged the piece to the new found presence of vibrators in regular drug stores. They are now sold at Duane Reade! This is a wonderful step because vibrators were and still are sometimes thought of as …

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