Sex and the single lady.

In Bolick’s article, “All The Single Ladies”, her focus is not sexual, it is more anthropological, but she does discuss sex. She quotes Robert H. Frank, who states that, “When available women significantly outnumber men, which is the case on many college campuses today, courtship behavior changes in the direction of what men want…. If …

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“All The Single Ladies” — A three part series.

Part One — To Marry or Not to Marry? All The Single Ladies is the title of a well-known Beyonce song. It is also the title of an article written by Kate Bolick in the November issue of the Atlantic. I loved the piece. Bolick talks about the history of being single both nationally and internationally. …

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Update on vaginismus.

We’ve been using botulinum toxin now for over a year and it may be time to give you some of my impressions. They are not in any particular order… they are just things we’ve learned along the way, but I think they can be helpful in thinking about botulinum toxin as a treatment option: For …

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Ben Wah balls.

Ben Wah balls are often called other things like Benoit balls, Orgasm balls or Geisha balls. If they are larger and made of plastic they are called duotone balls. There is documentation that they have been used all over the world for centuries. For women, they have been used by cultures from China to Egypt. …

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You go, girl!

I think one of the last sexual hold outs of our society is the acceptability of sexuality in older women. Maybe the problem is with older men and women, but generally I see it more with women. Some people see sexually active older men as sexy, but most people seem patently uncomfortable with a sexy, …

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Admiration and self love.

I recently read a blog by a man describing his wife’s body. It was like reading the most beautiful poetry. Every curve and wrinkle and bone or bulge was described with love and admiration. He was saying how much he loved her body and how much she hated it. He was saying that her body …

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DHEA…we thought so all along.

A new small scale study out of Italy seemed to show that DHEA can be helpful with menopausal symptom and can also positively affect a woman’s sexual desire. So why is anyone surprised? The truth is that DHEA is a precursor hormone (or a “mother hormone” – but that title might suggest that it yells …

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The year in clinical sexuality, 2011.

As we get ready to leave 2011 behind, I would like as always to express my gratitude to family, friends and colleagues for your support and encouragement over the past year; and to my patients for your trust and confidence. May we all merit much happiness in 2012. Here’s my list of 2011′s most interesting …

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