Diaphragmatic breathing.

Vaginal dilation for the treatment of vaginimus in women can evoke all kinds fears including the fear of tearing, breaking, and permanently injuring their vaginas. Some of the fears are rational (mild tearing/irritation is possible) however most of the fears are not. These fears are extremely powerful and can cause high levels of anxiety. Anxiety …

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Weathering the storm of sexual dysfunction.

Throughout Hurricane Sandy, it was fascinating to watch social media activity and see how people were coping with disruption in their routines and their fears of the unknown. Facebook statuses were anything from “No electricity or water” and “A tree fell on our house!!” to “Anyone else annoyed about missing Monday night football??” and “Whew, …

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Sex during pregnancy.

For the most part, sex during pregnancy really shouldn’t be all that different from sex at other times. Sex is safe, fun and a great way to celebrate this special time in your life with your partner. However, here are some things to keep in mind: If your doctor gives you specific instructions, it’s important …

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Some rumination on storm Sandy and sex.

Hmmm…I can tie anything in with sex, can’t I? Probably, but bear with me here. I got to thinking about how 9 months after major storms and blackouts there is always a spike in the number of babies born. That’s a reality that we don’t really question much. So obviously more people have sex during …

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Birth control pill for men?

Men of reproductive age have traditionally been restricted to using condoms and the withdrawal method to prevent pregnancy. Condoms have been the most reliable method as they can be up to 98% effective at preventing pregnancy if used consistently and correctly. However, with typical use that percentage drops to 85%. Historically it has been the …

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Tensing your body during sex.

Tensing your body during sex can either be a means to generating pleasure or a reaction to experiencing pain. If you’re interested in learning about tensing your body due to pain, read our blog on that topic. However, if you’re tensing your body because sex is pleasurable, read on.  It seems that part of having …

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Attachment theory.

Attachment theory is the best way to understand love and romantic relationships. “Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950′s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways: Anxious — people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partners ability to …

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The sex “drive”.

It was our first session of Driver’s Ed, and there we were sitting in the nerdy Driver’s Ed car. At last, it was my friend’s turn to drive and she joyously made her way to the front seat. With excitement on her face and eagerness to get moving, she simultaneously placed her right foot on …

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Injections for the Vagina?

Vaginismus is a condition in which the muscles in the vagina spasm involuntarily preventing vaginal penetration. This involuntary spasm can prevent women from inserting a tampon, undergoing speculum exams and having intercourse. Vaginismus is a major cause for unconsummated marriages. The cause of vaginismus is unknown, however fear, anxiety and pain can be contributing factors. …

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The pajama party.

I did a television interview last week. It was totally fun and totally unusual. It involved sitting on a waterbed. I kid you not. So here’s the premise — this new talk show has a bunch (four, to be precise) of absolutely adorable 20-somethings in PJ’s sitting around talking about sex. And me. Just to set …

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