Embracing your inner girl.

Eve Ensler gave a talk at the TED conference in 2009 about embracing one’s inner girl, which she has written a book about. One of my amazing patients recently brought it to my attention. I have always known about and respected Eve Ensler so it was fun to see what her latest work has been …

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Mirror, mirror on the wall.

Ever notice the facial expressions of little girls dressing up as princesses? Pure confidence. You won’t hear self-deprecating talk about whether they have the right figure to be a princess. Or if they need hair extensions to pull off the look. Or if they look royal despite missing a few teeth. What matters is that …

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Sexless marriage.

Sexless marriage is something that is rarely discussed. I have found that the most vocal people are the ones who are having sex and those that are not tend to keep quiet. This is horrible because myths about how effortless sex can be continue to be perpetuated. I find that in general once couples are …

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Diaphragmatic breathing.

Vaginal dilation for the treatment of vaginimus in women can evoke all kinds fears including the fear of tearing, breaking, and permanently injuring their vaginas. Some of the fears are rational (mild tearing/irritation is possible) however most of the fears are not. These fears are extremely powerful and can cause high levels of anxiety. Anxiety …

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Weathering the storm of sexual dysfunction.

Throughout Hurricane Sandy, it was fascinating to watch social media activity and see how people were coping with disruption in their routines and their fears of the unknown. Facebook statuses were anything from “No electricity or water” and “A tree fell on our house!!” to “Anyone else annoyed about missing Monday night football??” and “Whew, …

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Sex during pregnancy.

For the most part, sex during pregnancy really shouldn’t be all that different from sex at other times. Sex is safe, fun and a great way to celebrate this special time in your life with your partner. However, here are some things to keep in mind: If your doctor gives you specific instructions, it’s important …

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Some rumination on storm Sandy and sex.

Hmmm…I can tie anything in with sex, can’t I? Probably, but bear with me here. I got to thinking about how 9 months after major storms and blackouts there is always a spike in the number of babies born. That’s a reality that we don’t really question much. So obviously more people have sex during …

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Birth control pill for men?

Men of reproductive age have traditionally been restricted to using condoms and the withdrawal method to prevent pregnancy. Condoms have been the most reliable method as they can be up to 98% effective at preventing pregnancy if used consistently and correctly. However, with typical use that percentage drops to 85%. Historically it has been the …

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Tensing your body during sex.

Tensing your body during sex can either be a means to generating pleasure or a reaction to experiencing pain. If you’re interested in learning about tensing your body due to pain, read our blog on that topic. However, if you’re tensing your body because sex is pleasurable, read on.  It seems that part of having …

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Attachment theory.

Attachment theory is the best way to understand love and romantic relationships. “Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950′s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways: Anxious — people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partners ability to …

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