Am I old enough to use a lubricant?

It is a very common misconception that lubricants are reserved for women who are “old” and “frigid.” We challenge this misconception every day. The amount of moisture a woman produces during the arousal phase varies based on many different variables — stress, water intake, caffeine consumption, medical problems, medications, and where they are in their menstrual cycle. …

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An ode to being aroused.

The other day a patient who was coming from very far away on the train said to us, “I was going to read 50 Shades of Grey on the way down here, but then I figured I might get turned on and couldn’t do anything about it.” Hmmmm…It occurred to me that many of my …

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He, he and he.

A recent article in New York Magazine, titled, “He , He and He” takes a look at a modern day and somewhat famous menage a trois. The French term literally means, ” a household of three,” and the implication is that the three are engaged in sexual relations. Historically, there are many well known threesomes: …

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The misunderstood sex therapist-friend.

One of my best friends came from out of town to spend the night. We had a great time catching up and talking about pretty much everything, including the fact that the vibrator she was using felt too big and clunky. The day after she left I mailed her a book I thought she would …

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Arousal and anxiety in women.

Arousal in women is typically marked by a woman’s ability to lubricate. Physiologically, many things are happening to create a physical response. I have found in my work at the Center that that physical response is extremely important to women. Though arousal may be harder to physically detect in a woman than in a man, …

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The vibrator shortage.

OK everyone, take a deep breath. Yes, Bloomberg did shut down the “Pleasure Carts” giving away vibrators due to over-sized crowds. Yes, it is very aggravating. Yes, it would have been fun to take a vibrator home tonight. I get it. But really? Why are we all acting like these were the last vibrators available …

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Is hormone therapy for you?

Have you noticed a decrease in your libido? Are you experiencing hot flashes, insomnia, or anxiety? Are your periods changing: cycles becoming irregular or have they stopped altogether? The symptoms I’m describing are very common complaints during the peri-menopause transition to menopause- a time when your hormone levels are fluctuating or as a patient of …

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15 top medical organizations agree on hormone therapy use.

A statement was released recently from the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, the North American Menopause Society, and the Endocrine Society regarding the use of hormone therapy for symptomatic menopausal women. Over the past 10 years, there has been a lot of confusion among experts regarding hormone therapy which led many women to believe it …

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Spicing up your sex life.

The trick for keeping a long-term sexual relationship interesting is essentially giving it some attention! Think about it. The reality is that everyone needs something a bit different in their sex life and there is no “one-size fits all”. The more you actually spend time THINKING about what would spice up your sex life, the …

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