No sex for a year.

Here is a piece from the Huffington Post Blog that I thought should be discussed. The writer says that she and her husband had no sex at all for a year after her baby was born and it all worked out fine — and her relationship didn’t suffer. So I sat on this piece for a few …

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The real deal on psychotherapy.

Psychotherapy can be a helpful and fulfilling experience. Some people love therapy and feeling comforted knowing they have a space where they can fall apart; other people don’t like therapy and find it awkward and uncomfortable. Nevertheless, therapy can be a deeply enriching experience where people feel support in working towards better understanding and inner …

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Sex at any size.

Okay. This blog goes deep into a belief system we all struggle with. Every single woman I know. No matter what we say, or how hard we work at it, most women feel that there is something wrong with their bodies and the way that they look. Period. And this gets in the way (big …

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One billion rising on V-Day.

Today is V-day, a day that begins 48 hours of global activism for survivors of gender violence. One Billion Rising For Justice is a global call to women survivors of violence to break their silence and release their stories through art, dance, marches, ritual, song, spoken word,  and whatever way feels right.   In 2013, …

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The spillover effect.

One of the common myths around sex is that it is just one compartment of a relationship. In other words, if everything else in the relationship is good — you get along well, have similar values, enjoy spending time together — then that can overcompensate for what is lacking sexually. However, I have seen time and time …

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The Ziegarnik Effect.

John Gottman’s new book “What Makes Love Last” focuses on trust and betrayal. John Gottman is a couples therapist who does a great deal of research on what enables couples to maintain long term intimacy. He has written several books and this is his latest. In his book he discusses the Ziegarnik Effect. In the …

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Modern Love.

One of my absolute favorite sections of the Sunday Times is the Modern Love Column in the Style Section. Every week a different writer writes about his/her perception of an element of love. Sometimes it’s romantic love, but it can be familial love, love for a pet, a past, a story, almost anything will do. …

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I can put coconut oil where?!?

I am a big fan of coconut oil! Truth be told, I am an integrative nutrition news junkie and have been fascinated by the benefits of coconut oil.  It took me a while to warm up to the idea of using an oil, one that is full of saturated fat, internally and externally. But the …

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Breast cancer and sexual dysfunction: hitting close to the heart.

When a woman is diagnosed with breast cancer and treated, sexual satisfaction can easily fall to the back burner when it comes to conversations with doctors. After all, when cancer is in the picture, ‘survival mode’ and health concerns may preclude sex as a priority or recommendation. However, once the dust settles after treatment and …

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Feelings, colors and your body.

As a therapist I sometimes ask a patient where in their body they feel an emotion. By identifying the feeling in one’s body we can sometimes get more connected to ourselves. The experience  can be both grounding and validating. Several studies have come out recently proving that there is some universality as  to how and …

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