Why We Need to Avoid ‘Sexual Risk Avoidance’

What even is “Sexual Risk Avoidance?”  Abstinence-only promoters are getting sneaky.  They have now termed the phrase “Sexual Risk Avoidance (SRA)” education, to replace “Abstinence Only” education.  It has taken me a few tries to figure out what exactly SRA is all about. My inbox was filled with some emails promoting the new public health …

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Netflix and Chill

Okay, I’m not advertising Netflix. I am trying to advertise the “chill” part. Often people don’t make time to “just be” with each other and then they expect sex to “happen” spontaneously. It most often doesn’t work that way. People need a bridge between all the unsexy parts of life (changing diapers, analyzing a spreadsheet, …

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Sexual Assault Awareness Month (SAAM)

April is nationally recognized as Sexual Assault Awareness and Prevention month. As I ride the NYC subways I see numerous posters publicizing the issue of unwanted sexual . I’m surrounded by images broadcasting: Keep Your Hands Off Me You Have The Right To Speak Up If It’s Unwanted, It’s Harassment Rub against me and I’ll …

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Download A Little Meditation

At Congtythamtu Women’s Sexual Health we often suggest that our patients download the free app “Insight Timer”. It offers guided meditation and progressive relaxation which can relieve muscle tension as well as anxiety. The notion of meditation can feel daunting – sitting silent on pins and needles until you can’t stand it any longer! So, …

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Is My Low Sex Drive Treatable?

If you have been to the gynecologist and the answer to that question was “Oh just try having a glass of wine” or “Desire is something that fades with time- join the club”, then you might feel like the answer is no. But in reality, that is simply not the case. Sex drive is multifactorial, …

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Exercising Your Erotic Brain

More and more we understand that the brain is elastic. When you are getting “better” at a skill it is not only because you are learning that particular skill but because you are actually expanding parts of the brain. When you are working on learning something new, say a certain type of math, you will …

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Spring Fever

Sadly, the snow has not all melted, and there might even be more coming for us in the Northeast.  But on a more positive note, the daffodil and tulip buds are making their way through the snow and bursts of yellow and purple are making their way into the world. For many people winter brings …

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Nature’s Remedy

Times are a changing (not fast enough) when it comes to including women of all body types in the media. We have our Dove commercials and our size models for starters. In my work at Congtythamtu Women’s Sexual Health, I hear countless stories from women and their negative relationship with their bodies. Recent studies …

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Can Lasers Improve Your Sex Life?

People always ask me that. Here at Congtythamtu Women’s Health, we have been using the MonaLisa Touch® for over a year. It is a great option for treating post-menopausal vaginal atrophy. Vaginal atrophy is caused by decreasing levels of estrogen which happens as we age. It causes the skin in the vagina to become thin …

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