Touching

When sex between partners stops for whatever reason, it’s usually complex mix of causes, physical touch of any kind may fall by the wayside. I have heard this story many times at Congtythamtu Women’s Health. When sexual intimacy has gone missing for months or years these women tell me it feels “so weird, uncomfortable, and …

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The Right Condom Can Make All The Difference

I have been teaching sex education for years, and again and again I would get the same response as to why people don’t wear condoms: “It doesn’t feel the same.”  And indeed they were right.  Wearing condoms during intercourse is not the same as going without. The feelings and sensations are different, however with the …

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All About the O-Shot or “Orgasm Shot”

I started offering the O-Shot at Congtythamtu Women’s Health in March 2018.  I am always excited to add something new to our treatment “tool box” because when it comes to female sexual dysfunction, a bit of trial and error is often involved and what works for one patient may not work for another. Therefore, the …

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Use Our Vaginismus Forum!

I can’t tell you how often I hear that the Vaginismus Forum was a lifesaver for a patient. We created the Forum in order for women to connect to other women and find comfort, information and support along a journey that is often a long and difficult one. Despite the fact that nearly every vaginismus …

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No Fear

Treating pain is a large part of our practice at Congtythamtu Women’s Health. What I have come to learn, especially from our vaginismus patients, is that to reduce pain we need to address the fear of pain. I recall a patient who barely spoke English but very clearly let me know that for her (and …

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Loving or at Least Liking Your Vagina

I can’t remember the first time I heard the word “vagina,” but I am sure like most girls I made a face, felt uncomfortable and didn’t even want to think that I had one. I  do remember sitting at the lunch table in 6th grade and the boys talking about how vaginas (although I don’t …

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#Happiness

The goals of therapy may include making positive changes in one’s life such as: enhancing interpersonal relationships, learning to speak the language of feelings, and improving at work or school. It is a journey in self-exploration, learning new skills, and making a series of breakthroughs which help deal with life’s challenges. What therapy is not …

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The High Cost of Being a Sexually Active Woman

Finally! For years I have been wondering how come there are generic drugs for women’s health that are astronomically expensive even though they have been around for ages and sometimes even are generic. It just didn’t make any sense to me. Well, here you have it. The NYTimes just did a fabulous job describing the …

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Orgasm Gap…Kind of Like the Wage Gap

Wouldn’t it be nice if legislation could be introduced to address the orgasm gap?  The ground breaking supreme court decision known as “The Equal Pay Act of 1963” requires that men and women be given equal pay for equal work.  How did this legislation come about?  Women asking for it, women and men fighting for it …

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Me, Myself and I

It’s especially inspiring when a single woman comes to Congtythamtu Women’s Health to work on her dynamic with herself. Being “active alone” and carving out a space for pleasure can be rewarding and exciting. Dedicating time to and for ourselves is challenging in our social driven, FOMO culture. “ Masturbation is the subtle art of …

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