Getting back in the game.

“Having sexual dysfunction made me check out from my body. Now that I’m better I realize that I had checked out from life too.” – MCFS Vaginismus Patient (consent obtained for this quote) Sexual satisfaction and self-actualization are very intertwined. Thus, when sexual dysfunction is in the picture, it’s no surprise that many women feel alienated from …

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A course on how to love?

An interesting article was published recently in the New York Times proposing that it might be beneficial for college age students to attend a class about how to love. Many might think this is ridiculous but a lot of research is showing that the future generations are plugged in to screens and not each other. …

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Persistent genital arousal syndrome.

Persistent genital arousal syndrome is one of the most frustrating syndromes that I’ve faced while practicing at MCFS. Typically, a patient complaining of PGAS symptoms presents to us after some time of suffering. Since this syndrome affects each woman differently, a careful history must be taken. Although more research is being dedicated to this syndrome, …

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No sex for a year.

Here is a piece from the Huffington Post Blog that I thought should be discussed. The writer says that she and her husband had no sex at all for a year after her baby was born and it all worked out fine — and her relationship didn’t suffer. So I sat on this piece for a few …

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The real deal on psychotherapy.

Psychotherapy can be a helpful and fulfilling experience. Some people love therapy and feeling comforted knowing they have a space where they can fall apart; other people don’t like therapy and find it awkward and uncomfortable. Nevertheless, therapy can be a deeply enriching experience where people feel support in working towards better understanding and inner …

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Sex at any size.

Okay. This blog goes deep into a belief system we all struggle with. Every single woman I know. No matter what we say, or how hard we work at it, most women feel that there is something wrong with their bodies and the way that they look. Period. And this gets in the way (big …

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One billion rising on V-Day.

Today is V-day, a day that begins 48 hours of global activism for survivors of gender violence. One Billion Rising For Justice is a global call to women survivors of violence to break their silence and release their stories through art, dance, marches, ritual, song, spoken word,  and whatever way feels right.   In 2013, …

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The spillover effect.

One of the common myths around sex is that it is just one compartment of a relationship. In other words, if everything else in the relationship is good — you get along well, have similar values, enjoy spending time together — then that can overcompensate for what is lacking sexually. However, I have seen time and time …

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The Ziegarnik Effect.

John Gottman’s new book “What Makes Love Last” focuses on trust and betrayal. John Gottman is a couples therapist who does a great deal of research on what enables couples to maintain long term intimacy. He has written several books and this is his latest. In his book he discusses the Ziegarnik Effect. In the …

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Modern Love.

One of my absolute favorite sections of the Sunday Times is the Modern Love Column in the Style Section. Every week a different writer writes about his/her perception of an element of love. Sometimes it’s romantic love, but it can be familial love, love for a pet, a past, a story, almost anything will do. …

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