Embrace your body campaign.

Can you imagine a world where women embrace their bodies at every stage of their life? Can you imagine the changes that would occur on this earth? Taryn Brumfitt is raising money to create a documentary that will unite women across the globe to love their bodies. Check it out here.

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On talking to your (adult) kids about sex.

So here’s one to file under “great communication between mother and adult son.” A patient told us the other day that she had downloaded Fifty Shades of Grey to her kindle and really enjoyed reading it. Then she started laughing and said that when she downloaded the book, it hadn’t really occurred to her that …

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Minus one.

When a couple faces sexual dysfunction, in one or both partners, it can be a difficult and heartbreaking journey that challenges the foundation of the relationship. But let’s talk about what sexual dysfunction means for a woman who is single. For most women it doesn’t just feel like there is no ‘ one’ in the …

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Going oral.

In her new book An Intimate Life, sex surrogate Cheryl Cohen Greene (the one portrayed by Helen Hunt in The Sessions) describes her work with a man who has been unable to get an erection with his wife. After much exploration, it is discovered that the source of his problem is a very simple one: …

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Attachment theory and addiction.

As any reader of my blogs know, I am obsessed with attachment theory. The basic reason being that I think it makes so much sense of relationships. For so long I thought love and relationships were mysterious and miraculous. I still think a relationship that works well is pretty much miraculous but the reason why …

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Be gentle with your vulva.

When a patient comes to me complaining of vulvar pain my first question is, “Do you use soap on your vulva?”  I am often met with a quizzical look and the dreaded response, “Yes, of course!” When I hear that answer my heart sinks. Let this be my public service announcement: NO SOAP ON YOUR …

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“I’m absorbing!”

Testosterone. We tend to prescribe it often around here. It helps. For some women it helps a little. For some women it helps a lot. Janet (not her real name) came in for her first appointment a bit defensive. I think she didn’t really believe we could help her disinterest in sex and I get …

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Sex after childbirth.

The New York Times recently published two articles relating to sex after childbirth: “Talking Sex After Childbirth, and After Children” and “Sex and Intimacy After the Baby Arrives.”   While reading the articles and the  comments, I found the overarching theme to be that the mind-body connection is often necessary for a woman to not only …

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How much vaginal discharge is normal?

Are you concerned that you have more vaginal discharge than normal? Are you embarrassed to discuss discharge with your ob/gyn? I have fielded many questions about vaginal discharge from several patients in the last week so I figured it was time to write a blog about it! First, vaginal discharge is normal. All women have …

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Your kids and talking about…sex!

So here is another mother’s blog talking about how her kids discovered sex. My daughter babysits for this family and loves them. When she saw this blog she forwarded it to me because she knew I’d love it. I think it’s worth a read. First of all, because it will make you laugh…and second, because …

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