Coping with an affair.

Unfortunately, I  often hear about affairs in my work as a couples therapist. It is a difficult situation for both parties to cope with and the healing process is not easy. The first part is identifying what constitutes an affair.  In an article called, “The State of Extramarital Affairs” a couples therapist, Karen Rushkin, states …

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Vaginismus on TV – Masters of Sex.

I was intrigued to find out that the Showtime series, “Masters of Sex”, included vaginismus in the story line of their most recent episode (Season 2, Episode 9). Since I treat patients with vaginismus on a daily basis I felt compelled to watch the program. Although the show is steeped in melodrama, I felt the …

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Vagina is not a bad word!

Janet Raftis explores the controversy surrounding vaginas (the word and the actual body part) in this empowering blog.  She talks about her path towards healing the relationship with her own vagina and bravely reveals the fear, shame, dissociation and ultimately the love she now has for her vagina and vaginas everywhere! “When I first discovered …

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Telling the truth about menopause.

For some women, going through life transitions brings two simultaneous scripts. One script may include the lines a woman may say to those around her, what she shares with her partner, girlfriends, loved ones, even doctors and mental health practitioners. And then there is the other script; the internal dialogue going in her head that …

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Kegels for the next generation!

kGoal is a new device that has been designed to make kegel exercises easier and more fun. According to this article 30% of women are doing kegel exercises the wrong way. The device which is made of soft silicone sends feedback to an app so you can track your progress. As a bonus, if you …

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Pink ribbon blues.

An important article recently came out in Anthropology magazine about the after effects of breast cancer on a woman’s sexuality. The article is about one woman’s research with breast cancer survivors in Spain. Many of the women report feeling an enormous  impact on their sexuality after undergoing cancer treatment. A theme that kept coming up …

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“Am I normal?”

One of the most common questions I hear is, “Am I normal”? Whether it’s discussion around low libido, difficulty getting aroused, trouble with orgasm, painful intercourse, or general dating and relationship issues, the desire for validation and reassurance is part of the human experience. Often behind the question of being normal lies a deeper, more …

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First moon party.

They did it again! I don’t know if you remember the “camp gyno” ad that went viral last year but the company “Hello Flo” came out with another video which is also adorable/hilarious/touching-in-a-weird-way. I do think these ads are really funny. I also think they are a commentary on how important to girls their first …

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Woman Code.

I’m reading a fascinating book written by holistic health coach, Alisa Vitti. The title of the book is Woman Code and provides great advice and research on how to regulate menstrual cycles, clear up skin, lose weight, alleviate PMS, improve moods, and have better sex by following a whole-foods program. The idea behind following a whole-foods …

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