Restoring connection.

It’s interesting how in areas of our lives where it is understood that there will be difficulty in functioning, there isn’t a paralyzing stigma to get help. If you had a problem with your iPhone, odds are you wouldn’t wait six months to go to an Apple store to talk to an Apple Genius. Perhaps …

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Get the dog off the bed!

Some of our patients love animals. And I get that. But more than once I’ve been in the position of having to convince people to get the dog off of the bed! If you come in to our office trying to improve your sex life, it stands to reason, I’m not going to approve of …

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A quick guide to IUDs.

An intrauterine device (IUD) is a small contraceptive T-shaped device that is inserted into the uterus for an extended period of time. IUDs either contain copper or the hormone levonorgestrel and are the most effective form of reversible birth control. There is one type of copper IUD called ParaGard. ParaGard can remain in the uterus …

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Google data on sex.

In this recent article by Seth Stephen Davidovitz he concludes, after analyzing data from Google searches related to sex that, “if we (both men and women) were less insecure about it (sex) we might have more of it.” Yes! This is true. I see it all day long as a therapist who specializes in sex. …

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You are worth it!

Working with patients coping with all sorts of sexual issues, I frequently hear women talk about themselves in the context of their relationship with a similar formula: My worth as a person informs what I can expect/ask for in a relationship. And since a woman may feel like her self-worth is inferior because of sexual …

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6 things to know about having sex during your period.

I was recently interviewed by Health.com about things to know about having sex during your period. Here is a snippet: Doctors say go for it:“If the patient is comfortable with it, then it’s great to continue having sex throughout the month and not have to take a break,” says Ford. “It’s perfectly natural and safe …

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To fall out of love, do this!

I had to post this follow up article from The New Yorker! Firstly, because it’s funny and secondly, because this is the other side of intimacy. The other side of really knowing your partner is that you know their stories, you know their weaknesses, you know their strengths, you’ve lived through the ups and the …

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Status update.

Thanks to today’s social media, there’s an illusion of knowing all the details of what’s happening in other people’s lives: what they eat, where they’re headed for vacation, where they shop, what their mood is like, etc. This can mess with our heads because more often than not, the quality of people’s intimate relationships with …

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