The real “Hollywood” sex scene.

Often when I’m speaking, I will point out that sex is just not like what they show in the movies.  You know, we’ve all seen those great scenes where the clothes have no buttons or zippers to contend with, the penis finds its way into the vagina with no hand guiding it (kind of like …

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F*&k Yes or No? (Caution: profanity to follow.)

I really enjoyed reading this blog post. The author, Mark Manson, created a “law” to follow when establishing relationships with people. Whether the relationship is romantic or a friendship he recommends following his Law of “Fuck Yes or No”. I think it is hilarious and absolutely correct! “The Law of “Fuck Yes or No” states …

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When ‘someday’ is turning into ‘never’.

Most women we see have been struggling with their sexual functioning for a significant amount of time. It’s not uncommon for us to meet women who have spent years — even decades — trying to figure out why they can’t have a normal sex life and what they need to do to fix it. As many patients have …

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NYC sex therapist responds to New York Times opinion piece on Sprout Pharmaceuticals’ “Pink Viagra”.

  As a sex therapist who also happens to be a medical doctor, I’m used to disagreeing with a lot of what I read about sexual pharmacology. But the recent New York Times opinion piece “Nothing Is Wrong With Your Sex Drive” — regarding Sprout Pharmaceuticals’ new FDA application for flibanserin (so-called “Pink Viagra”) — seemed …

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Is couples therapy really about creating better communication?

Is couples therapy really about better communication? No! It is not. This is a commonly held misconception. A therapist named Linda Engelman wrote an excellent article on her blog called, “Four Reasons Communication skills wont save your relationship.” The gist is that the best communication in the world won’t heal the wounds that partners in …

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Stood up by your sex life.

Imagine you have a close friend with whom you’ve enjoyed years of good times. Some years were better than others, but you knew that no matter what, when you called on this friend or made plans, she showed up. Then one day you get stood up. She doesn’t call, she doesn’t write. Nada. That’s weird, …

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How soap scum can affect your sex life!

I’ve written about it before and I’m sure I will write about it again…your vulva (area just outside your vagina) only needs to be washed with water! I have seen many women complaining of vaginal/vulva dryness and are shocked to learn that using soap (of any kind) on this sensitive tissue can be harmful. There …

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Nothing is wrong with your sex drive?!?! Give me a break!

In a recent article in the New York Times entitled “Nothing Is Wrong With Your Sex Drive”, the author gave her opinion on the drug Flibanserin and her take on the history of low desire. My feeling is that this article may do many women a huge disservice. Unfortunately to assume that a woman’s low …

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Restoring connection.

It’s interesting how in areas of our lives where it is understood that there will be difficulty in functioning, there isn’t a paralyzing stigma to get help. If you had a problem with your iPhone, odds are you wouldn’t wait six months to go to an Apple store to talk to an Apple Genius. Perhaps …

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