Double-standard, double-trouble.

A man in his late 50’s goes to see a therapist for stress. After sitting through a few sessions, he finally musters up the guts to tell her what’s really bothering him. “So, I’ve noticed that since I turned 50, my libido has slowly disappeared.” The therapist, whether trained in sexual dysfunction or not, will …

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A new way of getting to “yes.”

Yesterday, a patient told me that she and her husband had developed a new way of communicating about sex and I thought it was so clever, I thought I’d pass it along! They have been having some problems with their sex life and, more recently, although things were getting better, her husband was getting fed …

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Go get your freak on.

There is a lot of hype surrounding the release of 50 Shades of Grey and BDSM.  Here is some food for thought from the mouth of Esther Perel, therapist and best-selling author of Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence. Perel says, “I do believe that the emphasis on egalitarian and respectful sex — purged of any expressions …

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Just want to cuddle?

I was a little perplexed by this recent article in the Wall Street Journal. It seems that a cuddle deficit is sweeping the nation and thus cuddle centers are opening nationwide. I certainly understand both the need and the power of . I have seen all the research on the power of touch and the …

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Texting: miscommunications or missed communications?

An engaged friend once told me a story that happened a month before her wedding. She was going through the guest list and became anxious about the numbers since the list far exceeded the wedding hall’s capacity.  Innocently, she took out her phone and sent her fiancé a short text message: We are so over. …

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Hormone replacement therapy and menopause.

Hormone replacement therapy (HRT) is the most effective treatment for women suffering from severe menopausal symptoms. These symptoms include hot flashes, night sweats, insomnia, fatigue, memory loss, low sex drive, depression and more. Although menopause is a normal condition that all women experience as they age, some women find these symptoms are so severe that …

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Marriage and happiness.

I recently read an interesting article in the New York Times by Claire Cain Miller called, “Study Finds More Reasons to Get and Stay Married” published on January 8, 2015. The study found that marriage can provide more happiness for couples particularly during mid-life because it is a very stressful times due to the demands …

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Women don’t have a monopoly on sexual insecurities.

Often times relationships will have conflicts around sex that stem from misconceptions around men and sex. Here are some truths about men and sex that can be surprising for some women to hear: Men want to be held too: Many times when there is sexual dysfunction the general affection in the relationship is affected. But …

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The crazy things that happen to our patients.

We have this great patient who should really be doing stand-up comedy. Whenever she is in our office she has some new and funny story to share. She was having significant vaginal pain when she came to see us and had been misdiagnosed by her OB/GYN so nothing was helping. Our NP picked up that …

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