So far away.

By the time many of our patients walk through our door, sex has become a sore subject in their relationships. Feeling sexually distant from a partner can manifest in various ways, and patients have shared descriptions that tend to come down to the same idea: We live in the same place and share so much, …

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Marriage math.

John Gottman is one of the most well-known couples therapist. He has an institute in Seattle and has done enormous amounts of research on what makes couples successful. Gottman has found, “that marriages fall into the danger zone for divorce when the ratio of positive to negative interactions falls below five to one. Just by …

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What it’s like to have severe vaginismus.

Our associate medical director, Melissa Ferrara, NP was recently interviewed for an article detailing what it’s like to have severe vaginismus. I recommend this article to anyone suffering from fear/pain with penetration. As always, you are not alone and complete resolution of your symptoms is possible. Please do not hesitate to call us for more …

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Sexual dysfunction: suffering x 2.

Usually my posts explore the experience and impact that sexual dysfunction can have on a woman’s sex life, confidence, and general well-being. In this post, I’d like to shift gears to the experience of the partner, who is often suffering too and may feel stuck. If that’s you, then you may have a whole bunch of …

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Sex is like a cup of tea?

I must admit that all of the conversations around “consent” regarding sex have had me bewildered. It just doesn’t seem like such a complicated idea. If someone is not saying “yes”, that would seem pretty straight-forward. Well clearly Craig Carillo, the producer of this 3 minute video Understand Consent With the Help of Stick Figures …

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Flibanserin.

Dr. Steven Snyder is a sex therapist as well as a medical doctor and wrote this excellent article about Flibanserin in Psychology Today, the so-called “pink viagra” for women. Professionals working in the field of female sexual health are anxiously awaiting the FDA’s decision on whether or not they will approve Flibanserin. Dr. Snyder ascertains …

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It’s how to fight.

Dr. John Gottman is an MIT-trained mathematician and psychologist who has spent decades observing couples and drawing evidence-based conclusions on the common patterns in healthy, loving relationships that last. In his observations of couples and the way they relate during conflict, Dr. Gottman asserts: “The issue isn’t whether you fight with each other, it’s how …

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The real “Hollywood” sex scene.

Often when I’m speaking, I will point out that sex is just not like what they show in the movies.  You know, we’ve all seen those great scenes where the clothes have no buttons or zippers to contend with, the penis finds its way into the vagina with no hand guiding it (kind of like …

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