Does pornography get a bad rap?

Have you ever thought about introducing porn into your relationship? Do you ever wonder if porn is a good thing, a bad thing or simply what the big deal is about? Well, our very own clinical director, Bat Sheva Marcus, is featured in this video discussing pornography and tips on how to approach this subject …

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Addyi (flibanserin) Update

Addyi will be available in pharmacies on October 17th. The medical staff at Congtythamtu is all set to prescribe Addyi. We have passed the required exams and are certified prescribers. We are looking forward to offering this medication when we feel it is appropriate. It does seem this medication works best for women who had …

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Threads of commonality.

I can’t count how many times I’ve heard a patient start a sentence with, “so I don’t know if you have ever heard this before but……..”, and they then share something we hear ALL time. In fact, we may have heard it already several times that day. It can be anything from describing symptoms, how …

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Dating with cancer.

I recently read an article about dating that I really loved. I talk to many of our patients about dating and I have lots of thoughts and opinions on it all but what this author said is a beautiful message that I fully support. She talks about dating while she had breast cancer. She writes …

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Slow sex in Manhattan.

The cultivation of sexual mindfulness. One rainy Friday afternoon in mid-summer, I traveled uptown to speak with Nicole Daedone, a former professor of semantics who now devotes herself full-time to teaching what must be one of the world’s most curious mindfulness techniques. At Daedone’s OneTaste Urban Retreat Center in San Francisco, and at workshops she …

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Being unavailable: The burden of vaginismus.

Like other types of sexual dysfunction, vaginismus can be like an ugly octopus that has multiple legs extending into various areas of a woman’s life. The effects can be pervasive and show up in her confidence, in her relationships, in her body image, in her sexuality, and her overall sense of well-being. Many patients have …

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A dildo with ashes?

A dildo that can be filled with the ashes of your dead lover? Yes, you read that right! Check it out. Would you want one? What will they think of next?

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How to talk about herpes.

I have worked with many patients over the years who have herpes. It can be very difficult for them to figure out how to cope with it themselves and then how to communicate it with others without feeling shame and sadness. I recently had a patient send me this article. I think my patient found …

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Wireless relationships.

There’s information you can get from reading history books and then there’s the wisdom you can get from the people who have actually lived it. Dr. Shirley Zussman is 100 years old and has been counseling people for over half a century. She has witnessed tremendous shifts in cultural attitudes around sex and relationships and …

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