Helping Women Learn to be Their Best Authentic Selves

Most of the advice and information about female sexuality found on the internet and in the media depicts love, relationships and sex as “movie romance”. It’s just not real. And often I find myself spending time with patients trying to help them understand that, in real life, relationships and sex are often messy, complicated, funny, …

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What’s Wrong?

A recent article was published in the New York Times that I found really interesting.   It’s called “Why You Will Marry The Wrong Person”; catchy title, I know, but I don’t think it’s a depressing read. The premise of the article is basically that we go into relationships with unrealistic expectations of love, marriage and …

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Putting Pleasure into Sex Education

My younger patients, twenty and under, are often confused and seem a little uncomfortable when I ask them about their “Desire” for sex.  Their answers include: “fine,” or “ok.”  I will then try and make them more comfortable and normalize the idea that sexual desire is a normal and healthy part of life. Many women …

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Because Sex is Not Just About Sex

Here’s an excerpt from an e-mail I recently received. I LOVED getting this e mail, not only because it was good news, which is always nice to get, but because I believe the writer highlighted something so crucial- how quickly sexual issues can snowball and affect the entire relationship even when a couple loves each …

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Slowing Down Inside

Meditation is nothing new, but it’s become a lot more popular these days. And that’s a good thing. I used to think that meditation meant sitting for a long period of time and having a blank mind.  I’d meet people who told me they meditate for a half hour each morning and I felt like …

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LOVE, NOT SO BLIND

A young patient at Congtythamtu Women’s Health is perplexed that the passion she had felt early in her marriage has cooled. What happened to the strolls under perfect skies and the rides to the stars?  Psychologist Israel Charny sees “normal” marriage as a relationship intrinsically laden with conflict and considers husbands and wives to be each other’s “intimate enemies.”  We have to compromise …

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Vietnam & Beyond

I recently returned from volunteering on a medical mission in Vietnam with The Children of Peace International (COPI). It was an absolutely amazing experience. 21 Vietnamese and 19 Americans joined together to provide care to 1,238 patients (mostly children) at 7 clinics in 5 different cities over 14 days! We started in Hanoi (North) and …

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A Spring of Anxiety

Many of us in the Northeast suffer from what is commonly referred to as SAD.  Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), is the time between November and March when the temperature drops and the sun goes down at 4PM. Why then is everything not all better when spring rolls around?  Rational thinking would lead one to believe …

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Understanding Bioidentical Hormones and Compounding Pharmacies

Often patients have misinformation about bioidentical hormones and compounding pharmacies since there is so much confusing and misleading information out there about both of them. Hopefully this sheet will clear up some misunderstandings and misconceptions. Bioidentical hormones – are products in which the chemical makeup of the hormones exactly matches the chemical makeup of the …

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Birth Control Pills and Vulvodynia

A recent study published in The British Medical Journal found that low-dose estrogen levonorgestrel birth control pills seem to be the safest in terms of cardiovascular risk.  It is important to note that all hormonal birth control pills have the potential to cause vulvodynia. The tissue in the vulvar vestibule has androgen receptors so …

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