Boundaries in the Bedroom

Every month another women’s magazine has an article about how you should “make your bedroom an oasis.” Or “keep the bedroom for sex.” And when I see this I have a difficult time stifling a giggle. Yes, of course we would all be better off if we kept our bedroom as a haven for sex. …

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Quality Over Quantity

At Congtythamtu Women’s Health we treat many women whose chief complaint is low desire. Some women have experienced a slow decline in libido for years, whereas for others it’s almost like a light switch suddenly turned off. Regardless of the onset, in both groups of women I often hear that their partner would ideally want …

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Vulnerability Hangover

Vulnerability catches us at all the wrong times, or does it?  I recently heard the term “vulnerability hangover” and completely related.  There have been so many times I have felt like I tried something new or said something out of the ordinary and felt great about it at the moment. I felt empowered and really …

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The Tipped Uterus?

Do you have pain in certain sexual positions? Has the doctor told you that you have a “tipped uterus”? Are you just plain curious what a tipped uterus is? Well this video is for you!! Created by one of the leading sex experts today (the guy who wrote the amazing, unparalleled Guide to Getting It …

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Partners in Vaginismus

It is common these days for a pregnant woman who is part of a couple to say “we’re pregnant”! Some people snicker and roll their eyes in response to this. True, her body is housing and will be laboring to have the baby, but “the couple” is having a baby. When a woman in a …

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Is The Mona Lisa Safe?

Recently there was an article in the NY Times which challenged the use of lasers for treating vaginal atrophy and other vaginal changes associated with menopause. The Mona Lisa Touch is an FDA approved device, although the treatment of vaginal atrophy is an off-label use of the laser therapy. The article suggested that the laser …

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Sex and Podcasts

While reading is one of my favorite things to do, I have to admit that I can’t read quite as much as I would like. While I still can’t replace reading with audio books, I have taken to listening to podcasts. As a therapist who specializes in sexuality I have found a particular interest in …

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More Sex and the City

It’s been 20 years since the show Sex and the City premiered and I miss it! I admit to watching reruns and can quote episodes verbatim by now but I want more. I really appreciated the relevance of the series. So when I came across The Update-Sex and the City Rebooted by Jennifer Keishin Armstrong …

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Kink Is Not Abuse

Strangling a partner, grabbing and pulling hair, and slapping someone all sound like forms of physical abuse, and indeed can be. In fact as someone who has worked with hundreds of survivors of intimate partner violence these activities are often what was described to me. Many of them finally left the abuser when their partner …

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