Learn to Fly

There are some things in life that get old. Fashion trends. Slang terms. Pokemon. Cars. Textbooks. But one thing that never gets old is what it is like sitting with a woman who has just had pain-free intercourse after years of suffering from vaginismus.  When patients with vaginismus first come here, many of them report …

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Vaginismus? Maybe you meant veganism.

One of our specialties at Congtythamtu is treating vaginismus.  Vaginismus is a condition where there is involuntary tightness of the vagina during attempted intercourse.  Women do not control the tightness, and many do not even realize this tightness is causing the tightness and pain with penetration. Most patients have been to see several other medical professional …

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An evolutionary approach to Orgasm?

Since I have started working in this field I’ve been fascinated by the science behind the development of female orgasm. And frankly, I think I’ve read every book available on the subject. I’ve never really found any of the current theories convincing. Well the NY Times recently did a piece on a new scientific theory …

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Life Can Be A Beach

When August rolls around, we in the Northeast feel the beginning of the end of summer. Back to school commercials blare. Here’s one way to hold onto the magic of summer: I recently had a cocktail aptly named “Sex on the Beach”. It was first served in 1987 in Florida. Even though I was nowhere near the beach while …

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Open to Heal

We walk around sharing varying forms of ourselves depending on the situation we are in, who we are with, and how we are feeling inside.  Often we are not even conscious of the choice to adjust the level of disclosure and openness we exhibit; sometimes we are aware we are doing it but much of …

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Self-talk your way to Happiness

We all want to be happy, but the truth is that happiness does not just happen.  Just like most things in life we need to figure out a plan and recognize what does and does not bring happiness into our lives.  We cannot be happy all of the time, but we can objectively step back …

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Age Is Just A Number

We live in a culture that tends to look at sex as something for the young; that as you get older, you shrivel up, no longer have sex, and just sit around doing crossword puzzles.  Studies have indicated otherwise; many senior citizens continue to have sex and want to have a vibrant sex life.  Lately …

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Birth Control Made Easy

Thanks to recent advances in technology, so many things can be ordered and executed while we are in our PJs. Currently, in both New York as well as California, (with plans to include other states) birth control can be obtained using an app called Nurx. Here is more information about this in an article entitled, …

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Like Wine, Sex Gets Better With Age

One of the things that make me saddest is that our society often sees sex as the exclusive purview of the young only. But you know what? Older people can have sex and enjoy it. In some cases it can even be better than sex for the younger set.  Because seniors have more free time, …

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