Grounded

As you are reading this, I’d like you notice your feet on the ground. Your back against the chair. Your breath coming in and out. Congrats, you just did a grounding exercise. A grounding exercise is a conscious intervention that brings us back to the present, to the here-and-now. To where the body is at …

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No More

October is Domestic Abuse Awareness month. Domestic violence (DV) also now commonly referred to as Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) affects us all. But like sex and sexuality it is one of those taboo topics that are not openly talked about, yet surrounds us. Statistics record that 1 in 4 American women is or will be …

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When vaginismus treatment fails after successful vaginismus treatment

During the many years I treated Vaginismus I have also supported a number of women who regressed after successful vaginismus treatment. The most common reasons are: Returning to a busy work program often coupled with failure to continue dilating Lack of sexual interest, low libido, lack of lubrication, anorgasmia (failure to achieve orgasm) Disgust with …

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Should I consider the MonaLisa Touch?

If you are suffering from post-menopausal atrophic vaginitis, there are a few treatment options available to you. You could try lubricants and personal moisturizers. They may provide some degree of relief, but typically they don’t completely resolve symptoms. Hormonal therapy can be very effective, but a lot of women are concerned about hormone use, or …

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“By the way, sex is also painful.”

Over years we’ve had many women who have come here for treatment for low desire. Odds are, the woman has spent a lot of time trying to figure out what’s behind the low desire, why is it like that, what can change it, will it ever get better, etc. What’s interesting is how often it …

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Go Ahead and Ask

A new study in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, confirmed what many of us have known for years. Attentiveness and responsiveness to a partner’s sexual needs increases that partner’s desire: “Feeling special and perceived partner mate value explained the responsiveness–desire link, suggesting that responsive partners were seen as making one feel valued as …

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How to Have an Orgasm

There are so many books on how to have an orgasm that I sometimes feel I could start an orgasm library, you know, a whole library with just books on orgasm. Some of the books are great and helpful. Some of them, less so. But when I’m talking to women about becoming orgasmic, there are …

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Table For Two

The idea of mindfulness, staying present, and creating meaningful moments has exploded, proliferating across many fields. While browsing a home design site, I came upon Sati Tala, which means “a mindful surface”. Tany Jarus, a design student created a new intimate dining table for her final project. It consists of stools and a wooden table …

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September is Gynecologic Cancer Awareness Month

September is Gynecologic Cancer Awareness month. This is a national recognition established by the Foundation for Women’s Cancer in 1999. For over 50 years routine pap smears have helped screen for cervical cancer and help reduce the morbidity and mortality from cervical cancer by 70%. With the widespread use of Gardasil and improved screening fewer …

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