“By the way, sex is also painful.”

Over years we’ve had many women who have come here for treatment for low desire. Odds are, the woman has spent a lot of time trying to figure out what’s behind the low desire, why is it like that, what can change it, will it ever get better, etc. What’s interesting is how often it …

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Go Ahead and Ask

A new study in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, confirmed what many of us have known for years. Attentiveness and responsiveness to a partner’s sexual needs increases that partner’s desire: “Feeling special and perceived partner mate value explained the responsiveness–desire link, suggesting that responsive partners were seen as making one feel valued as …

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How to Have an Orgasm

There are so many books on how to have an orgasm that I sometimes feel I could start an orgasm library, you know, a whole library with just books on orgasm. Some of the books are great and helpful. Some of them, less so. But when I’m talking to women about becoming orgasmic, there are …

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Table For Two

The idea of mindfulness, staying present, and creating meaningful moments has exploded, proliferating across many fields. While browsing a home design site, I came upon Sati Tala, which means “a mindful surface”. Tany Jarus, a design student created a new intimate dining table for her final project. It consists of stools and a wooden table …

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September is Gynecologic Cancer Awareness Month

September is Gynecologic Cancer Awareness month. This is a national recognition established by the Foundation for Women’s Cancer in 1999. For over 50 years routine pap smears have helped screen for cervical cancer and help reduce the morbidity and mortality from cervical cancer by 70%. With the widespread use of Gardasil and improved screening fewer …

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Vitamin D – The Sunshine Vitamin

As summer is winding down, your days at the beach, pool, or the park are coming to a brief reprise until next summer. While you are soaking up the very last rays of summer, think of Vitamin D. Vitamin D is produced in the skin in response to direct sunlight, and it’s a pretty important vitamin. Dietary …

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Never too late in the Summer for Sex Ed

Summer vacation is sadly (or gladly for some) coming to an end. The kids are on their way back to school, and another year begins.  A friend of mine has a daughter starting middle school this fall, and vowed she would talk to her about sex and sexuality before Labor Day.  She started saying this …

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Learn to Fly

There are some things in life that get old. Fashion trends. Slang terms. Pokemon. Cars. Textbooks. But one thing that never gets old is what it is like sitting with a woman who has just had pain-free intercourse after years of suffering from vaginismus.  When patients with vaginismus first come here, many of them report …

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Vaginismus? Maybe you meant veganism.

One of our specialties at Congtythamtu is treating vaginismus.  Vaginismus is a condition where there is involuntary tightness of the vagina during attempted intercourse.  Women do not control the tightness, and many do not even realize this tightness is causing the tightness and pain with penetration. Most patients have been to see several other medical professional …

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An evolutionary approach to Orgasm?

Since I have started working in this field I’ve been fascinated by the science behind the development of female orgasm. And frankly, I think I’ve read every book available on the subject. I’ve never really found any of the current theories convincing. Well the NY Times recently did a piece on a new scientific theory …

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