Why does tensing your body during sex cause more pain?

Tensing your body during sex can either be a means to generating pleasure or a reaction to experiencing pain. If you’re interested in the pleasure aspect, read our blog on that topic. However, if you’re tensing your body because sex is painful, read on. This is something many women have experienced. Sometimes it is a …

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One Heart, Many Genders

I recently watched the mini-series “When We Rise”. The show follows the true life individual and political histories of various LGBT activists who were instrumental in the US civil rights movement. Going back further in our country’s history, I learned that all Native American societies acknowledged three to five gender roles : Female, male, Two …

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Menopause… the truth is really out there.

As a clinician, I find nothing more frustrating these days than the difficulty women are having finding help for their menopausal/ perimenopausal symptoms. This is not an obscure disease; this is a normal life stage. I have women that have seen 3 or 4 other providers before coming to see me, for what I would …

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Vaginismus: It’s Okay to Feel Angry

I have found something interesting while working with vaginismus patients. Many of them are angry. Most of them don’t seem angry when they first come in. They seem sad, hopeless, confused, and afraid. I most often have the urge to put my arms around them and say “It’ll be okay. I promise you.” But oftentimes …

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What We Can All Learn from Polyamory

I came across an interesting article recently about what we can all learn from polyamory. What is polyamory? Polyamory is defined as “a form of consensual non-monogamy that emphasizes emotional and sexual intimacy with multiple partners simultaneously, ideally with the knowledge of all parties involved.”  While we may not all want to be in a polyamorous …

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OSCARS AND KEGELS- AN UNLIKELY PAIR!

Every year, I eagerly wait to hear what treats will be inside the Oscar goody bag. Drum roll: This years’ Oscar swag bag included a limited edition Elvie which is a pelvic floor exercise tracker; a Fit Bit for kegels! The Elvie boasts “better core strength, control, and better sex “as it coaches you through your kegels and measures …

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Ditch The Label: Video

I recently watched this video and thought it did a great job illustrating the effect that social media has on our lives and how it has, in some ways, turned us into 24/7 PR representatives for ourselves.  There are many merits to technology and social media, and the fact that we no longer need to …

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MonaLisa Touch: Is It Right For You?

Millions of women experience changes in their vaginal health that interfere with their personal lives during the post-menopause years. These changes are the result of decreased estrogen. Problems include vaginal laxity, decreased lubrication, painful intercourse, urinary incontinence, pouty labia and fissures at the opening of the vagina. Many women suffer in silence. Those who seek …

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Porn Statistics

Call me a nerd but I am fascinated by statistics of internet searches on porn sites. I feel like ever since I read A Billion Wicked Thoughts, I am very sensitive to the fact that the only way to gather accurate data about who really likes what, who is really looking for what and what our habits are around …

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