The Myriad of New Sexual “Labels”

The NY Times recently did an article on Sapiosexuals – people’s whose erotic response is triggered by smart people. I could relate. I suppose I’m a heterosexual sapiosexual, I’m turned on by really smart men.  But it got me thinking about all the myriad of new sexual “labels”. Here’s a comprehensive list.  People who are attracted …

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Imagine…

Imagine if you could tell someone how you really feel when they ask, “how are you?” Imagine if there wasn’t shame in having relationship challenges. Imagine if there was more normalizing in getting help. Imagine if you looked in the mirror and thought, hey, I’m good just the way I am. Imagine if people loved …

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Weekend Warriors

Like most working people, finding the time to exercise during the work week can be a struggle. Therefore, many people fine that most of their exercising is concentrated on the weekends. The question is: if I can’t find the time to exercise daily, is it still beneficial to be a ‘Weekend Warrior’, and if so, …

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Wonder Woman’s thoughts on Sexual Pleasure

This summer’s block buster movie Wonder Woman, is not only fun to watch, but has a few words of wisdom that might be important to note.  Wonder Woman agrees that partners are nice but not necessary for sexual pleasure.  Wonder Woman leaves the peaceful female only island where she was brought up to enter into …

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Affirmative

Back in the day I laughed at Chris Farley’s character Stuart Smalley on SNL and his affirmation “Because I’m good enough. I’m smart enough. And doggone it, people like me”.  I laughed, but I also learned. Affirmations are powerful and can help change our state of mind, our mood and give us a sense of …

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In a Fight with Your Vagina

Imagine a friend who starts flaking on your plans with no real explanation.  After a continued pattern, you get fed up and decide that you are no longer going to make any plans with her and set yourself up for disappointment. There may have been positive memories of the past, times where you really enjoyed …

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Fifty Shades of Hot Sex

If you felt like the 50 Shades of Grey movie was lacking in content, then you might be interested to hear what happened when a group of female millennials checked out a sex class with a similar topic. This group of women enrolled in “50 Shades of Hot Sex” at Babeland in the SoHo section …

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In All This Sex Talk, Let’s Not Forget About Love

We don’t speak to our kids enough about sex, but you know what? We don’t speak to them enough about love either. And, if you would like those topics to be somewhat connected for your children,  then you (the parents) really need to be talking to your kids about both!  According to a report released today by Harvard …

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The Challenges of Sexuality in Marriage

If I had to sum up the challenges of sexuality in marriage, it would be a borrowed quote from Dr. Jack Morin, author of “The Erotic Mind”. He defines eroticism as “the interplay of sexual arousal with the challenges of living and loving.” What are challenges of living that can get in the way of sexual …

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Just Write!

We are fortunate that there are so many therapeutic methods to choose from. One of my favorites is the practice of “therapeutic journal writing”. Writing things down can mitigate tension as writing about powerful emotions helps release the intensity of these feelings. It also helps clarify our thoughts and feelings and illuminates the issue we …

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