You’re More Beautiful Than You Think

Dove has done some amazing work in helping women feel better about their bodies. This experiment is one of my favorite ones. It really highlights how much body image can be distorted, and what happens for people when they become aware of it in an obvious way.  Having a good sex life is more than …

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Enjoying Sex with Vaginismus

So much energy and frustration is given to not being able to have intercourse with vaginismus, that many forget that sex is not just intercourse. While being treated for vaginismus and wanting to be able to have intercourse is a very important part of sexuality, there is more to sex than intercourse. Often, when I …

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Husbands watch Porn. Husbands Despair. Why?

I’m constantly stunned by the assertions people make about porn-watching with little to no data and very limited knowledge. I am also struck by all of the assumptions people make about people who watch porn. Here is an excellent piece written by a terrific colleague-therapist on one aspect of the “porn conundrum.” Wives of porn …

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“What Choice Do I Have?!”

Choices, selections, options, plans, alternatives, opportunities. The common denominator of all these words is change.  We have been labeled as a disposable society where it is often easier and more efficient to discard what is broken rather than repair it. We can argue over whether that is indeed a good state of affairs, but for …

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5 Myths About Female Sexuality

There are far too many myths about female sexuality, most of which are outdated and blown way out of proportion. Here are 5 Myths About Female Sexuality debunked! If you think you’re suffering from sexual dysfunction, request a free 10 minute phone consultation. MYTH 1 Most women have orgasms from vaginal intercourse Even as I write …

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The Myriad of New Sexual “Labels”

The NY Times recently did an article on Sapiosexuals – people’s whose erotic response is triggered by smart people. I could relate. I suppose I’m a heterosexual sapiosexual, I’m turned on by really smart men.  But it got me thinking about all the myriad of new sexual “labels”. Here’s a comprehensive list.  People who are attracted …

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Imagine…

Imagine if you could tell someone how you really feel when they ask, “how are you?” Imagine if there wasn’t shame in having relationship challenges. Imagine if there was more normalizing in getting help. Imagine if you looked in the mirror and thought, hey, I’m good just the way I am. Imagine if people loved …

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Weekend Warriors

Like most working people, finding the time to exercise during the work week can be a struggle. Therefore, many people fine that most of their exercising is concentrated on the weekends. The question is: if I can’t find the time to exercise daily, is it still beneficial to be a ‘Weekend Warrior’, and if so, …

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Wonder Woman’s thoughts on Sexual Pleasure

This summer’s block buster movie Wonder Woman, is not only fun to watch, but has a few words of wisdom that might be important to note.  Wonder Woman agrees that partners are nice but not necessary for sexual pleasure.  Wonder Woman leaves the peaceful female only island where she was brought up to enter into …

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Affirmative

Back in the day I laughed at Chris Farley’s character Stuart Smalley on SNL and his affirmation “Because I’m good enough. I’m smart enough. And doggone it, people like me”.  I laughed, but I also learned. Affirmations are powerful and can help change our state of mind, our mood and give us a sense of …

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