You May Not Need The Vestibulodynia Surgery After All!

So you’ve been told you need surgery for your Vestibulodynia. Maybe you do. And maybe you don’t.  A new treatment protocol might make that surgery unnecessary. Provoked Vestibuloydynia (PVD) is clinically defined as chronic, unexplained, vulvar pain or discomfort in the vulvar area in response to any type of pressure.  The pain may be in …

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September Is PCOS Awareness Month

Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome or (PCOS) is a hormonal disorder causing enlarged ovaries with tiny cysts on the outer edges of the ovaries. The ovaries often fail to release eggs causing women to be anovulatory and thus infertile. PCOS requires a medical diagnosis with lab tests and sonographic imaging. The cause of PCOS is not well …

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Women’s Sex Toys: Made by Women for Women

The movement to get more women and girls into science and technology has created the successful STEM movement (Science Technology Engineering Mathematics), and the acronym STEM is becoming more and more popular and known nationwide. For centuries these fields have been dominated by men, however the last five years have shown real improvement in women …

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I’m Just A Girl Who Can Say No

Remember the song in the musical Oklahoma “I’m Just A Girl Who Can’t Say No”? Aldo Annie is a woman who simply couldn’t turn down male attention against her better judgement. Offstage, saying “No” is an essential skill in the dating/relationship arena and in most areas of our lives. What’s so hard about saying no, …

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Vaginismus: Not So Weird

Even after years of doing this work, it still pains me deeply to see the behind-the-scenes of a couple coping with vaginismus.  Vaginismus is one of those conditions that, upon hearing about it for the first time, sounds bizarre to people, some obscure condition you’d read about in a magazine or book. Can’t have sex? …

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The Upside Of Sexting

Sexting may have a bad rap because of certain notorious sexters, but when used within a relationship it can be advantageous to the couple. Research demonstrates that sexting has an affirmative effect on sexual satisfaction. Here’s how it works: When you share alluring remarks, fantasies or sexy images it creates anticipation and incites excitement which …

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A New Insight into Date Rape

I used to have a difficult time understanding how a situation would occur where the woman felt she had been raped and the man felt that the sex had been consensual. (I am excluding situations in which one person is lying. I am addressing here those situations where both parties are acting as honest brokers …

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Cleaning Under the Rug

One of the most common challenges facing relationships is finding time and communication avenues to explore issues that are difficult to speak about. Consequently, issues get swept under the rug, though they continue to fester and prop up at various moments.  Sex is one of those topics that couples struggle with creating a space to …

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I Choose To Not Be Unhappy

While we cannot choose everything, we do or feel in life, we do need to remind ourselves that we do have the capacity to choose and regulate how we feel from moment to moment more than we might think.  Depression is real, and you cannot simply choose to “no longer be depressed.”  Therapy, medication and …

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National Happiness Happens Day

August 8 was National Happiness Happens day. Founded in 1999 by the Secret Society of Happy People as Admit you’re Happy Day. Happiness happens was created to spread the joy of being happy and to persuade people to look on the brighter side of life. Seeing the glass as half full not half empty and …

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