Quality Over Quantity

At Congtythamtu Women’s Health we treat many women whose chief complaint is low desire. Some women have experienced a slow decline in libido for years, whereas for others it’s almost like a light switch suddenly turned off. Regardless of the onset, in both groups of women I often hear that their partner would ideally want …

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Vulnerability Hangover

Vulnerability catches us at all the wrong times, or does it?  I recently heard the term “vulnerability hangover” and completely related.  There have been so many times I have felt like I tried something new or said something out of the ordinary and felt great about it at the moment. I felt empowered and really …

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Kink Is Not Abuse

Strangling a partner, grabbing and pulling hair, and slapping someone all sound like forms of physical abuse, and indeed can be. In fact as someone who has worked with hundreds of survivors of intimate partner violence these activities are often what was described to me. Many of them finally left the abuser when their partner …

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What Should Go in the Vagina?

We live in the world of internet health, for good and bad. I admit to turning to the internet for medical advice. A rash on my arm, a strange feeling in my chest, and I turn to Dr. Google. However, in the end, the overwhelming amount of advice and strange ideas usually sends me straight …

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Touching

When sex between partners stops for whatever reason, it’s usually complex mix of causes, physical touch of any kind may fall by the wayside. I have heard this story many times at Congtythamtu Women’s Health. When sexual intimacy has gone missing for months or years these women tell me it feels “so weird, uncomfortable, and …

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The Right Condom Can Make All The Difference

I have been teaching sex education for years, and again and again I would get the same response as to why people don’t wear condoms: “It doesn’t feel the same.”  And indeed they were right.  Wearing condoms during intercourse is not the same as going without. The feelings and sensations are different, however with the …

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All About the O-Shot or “Orgasm Shot”

I started offering the O-Shot at Congtythamtu Women’s Health in March 2018.  I am always excited to add something new to our treatment “tool box” because when it comes to female sexual dysfunction, a bit of trial and error is often involved and what works for one patient may not work for another. Therefore, the …

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Use Our Vaginismus Forum!

I can’t tell you how often I hear that the Vaginismus Forum was a lifesaver for a patient. We created the Forum in order for women to connect to other women and find comfort, information and support along a journey that is often a long and difficult one. Despite the fact that nearly every vaginismus …

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No Fear

Treating pain is a large part of our practice at Congtythamtu Women’s Health. What I have come to learn, especially from our vaginismus patients, is that to reduce pain we need to address the fear of pain. I recall a patient who barely spoke English but very clearly let me know that for her (and …

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