Reviving “The Dining Dead”!

I regularly tune into Modern Love the Podcast. There was a recent episode titled “How The ‘Dining Dead’ Got Talking Again”. It’s really scary when you and your significant other stop talking and sharing intimate conversation. Of course there’s tons of relationship advice out there. Here’s an interesting tidbit: Research has shown that when we …

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Being There

One of the things I want to work on this year is creating space to slow down. Life is so fast paced and busyness abounds in our culture. The rat-race and our road runner society often don’t allow us moments to be fully present. Time is something we can never get back. So, let’s try …

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Therapy and Menstruation

As a therapist, I am often wary to ask my patients too many questions during our first visit. I know it is hard enough to open yourself up to someone new, and answer the many questions necessary to get to know someone in a therapeutic context. However, more and more I am starting to realize …

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To Do

Especially around Holiday time we have so much happening and our To-Do list can begin to look like The Gettysburg Address! Take a breath and take note of The Real To – Do List: Sing Smile Keep learning Notice kindness Eat well Hope Count your blessings Laugh Love Love some more Keep adding to this …

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Living Life in Shades of Gray

Many of us tend to “split” and see life and ourselves as either good or bad, right or wrong, smart or dull, fair or unfair, or one extreme or the other.  This is called “black and white thinking “and we generally engage in it to give us a sense of control and familiarity. In truth, …

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All You Need Is Self – Love!

A common theme I hear from women who come to Congtythamtu Women’s Sexual Health is how it’s so much easier for them to give to their partners than it is to receive. Of course there is more to this than meets the eye, but it got me thinking that many women aren’t “talented receivers”. Is …

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You’ve Come A Long Way Broadcasting Baby

I am loving TV these days. Remember when Lucy and Ricky’s bedroom had twin beds separated by a large piece of furniture?! Nowadays even vibrators are the subject of discussion on a Prime Time television show. Every type of family dynamic is represented on screen. We have same sex couples, working moms, single moms, stay …

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GGG: Good, Giving, Game – Aren’t we All?

A young female patient of mine has started head first into the world of online dating. Besides the usual ups and downs of navigating that ever-changing landscape, she also had some questions and confusion on what some of the terms individuals use to describe themselves (in her case she is interested in heterosexual men).  She …

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Finding Your Way

Whenever I use GPS on my phone, it takes a few moments for it to find my location. Otherwise, the app can’t help me get anywhere.  Sometimes, people avoid coming in for treatment because it can be scary to slow down and see where you’re at on the map; whether it’s an individual issue or …

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