#SpeakUp

Millions of us were glued to the TV when Dr. Christine Blasey Ford told her story. During the hearing, phone numbers flashed across our screens. These phone numbers were for sexual assault hotlines. The number of calls these hotlines were receiving increased during and after Dr. Ford’s hearing. Hashtags were created and they continue to …

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Quality Over Quantity

At Congtythamtu Women’s Health we treat many women whose chief complaint is low desire. Some women have experienced a slow decline in libido for years, whereas for others it’s almost like a light switch suddenly turned off. Regardless of the onset, in both groups of women I often hear that their partner would ideally want …

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Vulnerability Hangover

Vulnerability catches us at all the wrong times, or does it?  I recently heard the term “vulnerability hangover” and completely related.  There have been so many times I have felt like I tried something new or said something out of the ordinary and felt great about it at the moment. I felt empowered and really …

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Download A Little Meditation

At Congtythamtu Women’s Sexual Health we often suggest that our patients download the free app “Insight Timer”. It offers guided meditation and progressive relaxation which can relieve muscle tension as well as anxiety. The notion of meditation can feel daunting – sitting silent on pins and needles until you can’t stand it any longer! So, …

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Nature’s Remedy

Times are a changing (not fast enough) when it comes to including women of all body types in the media. We have our Dove commercials and our size models for starters. In my work at Congtythamtu Women’s Sexual Health, I hear countless stories from women and their negative relationship with their bodies. Recent studies …

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Embracing Negative Emotions

Most of us are taught from a young age that negative emotions are bad, and we are not supposed to be angry or sad.  But the truth is we could not be feeling, loving human beings unless we felt those negative emotions.  How could we know what happiness is if we did not feel sadness?  …

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We Get By With A Lot Of Help From Our Friends

Diversifying our material assets is a well-known concept. As it turns out, doing the same with relationships is a good idea as well. Finding a significant other is wonderful, but may not be enough for meeting all of our emotional needs. Having different people around to help with varying emotional tasks seems to be linked …

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Why We Need #MeToo

When I speak to acquaintances or meet new people and speak about my work as a therapist with survivors of sexual and gender based violence, I am often met with a strained face, and a “Wow, that must be really tough.”  But the reality is that while I do not think of the work as …

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Reviving “The Dining Dead”!

I regularly tune into Modern Love the Podcast. There was a recent episode titled “How The ‘Dining Dead’ Got Talking Again”. It’s really scary when you and your significant other stop talking and sharing intimate conversation. Of course there’s tons of relationship advice out there. Here’s an interesting tidbit: Research has shown that when we …

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