What’s the Deal with ‘Toxic Masculinity’

If you were anywhere on social media in mid-January, you undoubtedly came across the new Gillette commercial. The men (and women, interestingly enough) who were offended by the ad felt that the ad was disparaging masculinity or ‘what it means to be a man.’ The ad attempts to display images of ‘toxic masculinity’ such as …

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Brain Power

Our brains deserve credit for much of our sexual functioning. Once underlying physiological factors are addressed, we need to exercise the pleasure centers in the brain to boost libido and arousal. How do we do this? Reading erotica and engaging in fantasy are known to positively foster sexuality. They are vehicles that allow us to …

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Ask Away

Are we asking each other enough questions and are we truly listening to the answers? You know how when you pass by someone and ask, “How are you?” you walk on assuming they have answered “Fine”? Kalina Silverman ran a research project named Big Talk and concluded that we need to skip the small talk …

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#SpeakUp

Millions of us were glued to the TV when Dr. Christine Blasey Ford told her story. During the hearing, phone numbers flashed across our screens. These phone numbers were for sexual assault hotlines. The number of calls these hotlines were receiving increased during and after Dr. Ford’s hearing. Hashtags were created and they continue to …

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Quality Over Quantity

At Congtythamtu Women’s Health we treat many women whose chief complaint is low desire. Some women have experienced a slow decline in libido for years, whereas for others it’s almost like a light switch suddenly turned off. Regardless of the onset, in both groups of women I often hear that their partner would ideally want …

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Vulnerability Hangover

Vulnerability catches us at all the wrong times, or does it?  I recently heard the term “vulnerability hangover” and completely related.  There have been so many times I have felt like I tried something new or said something out of the ordinary and felt great about it at the moment. I felt empowered and really …

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Download A Little Meditation

At Congtythamtu Women’s Sexual Health we often suggest that our patients download the free app “Insight Timer”. It offers guided meditation and progressive relaxation which can relieve muscle tension as well as anxiety. The notion of meditation can feel daunting – sitting silent on pins and needles until you can’t stand it any longer! So, …

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Nature’s Remedy

Times are a changing (not fast enough) when it comes to including women of all body types in the media. We have our Dove commercials and our size models for starters. In my work at Congtythamtu Women’s Sexual Health, I hear countless stories from women and their negative relationship with their bodies. Recent studies …

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Embracing Negative Emotions

Most of us are taught from a young age that negative emotions are bad, and we are not supposed to be angry or sad.  But the truth is we could not be feeling, loving human beings unless we felt those negative emotions.  How could we know what happiness is if we did not feel sadness?  …

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