Ask Away

Are we asking each other enough questions and are we truly listening to the answers? You know how when you pass by someone and ask, “How are you?” you walk on assuming they have answered “Fine”? Kalina Silverman ran a research project named Big Talk and concluded that we need to skip the small talk …

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Pressure.

Everyone experiences it, and these days, it’s like we’re all living in one giant, steamy, anxiety-inducing, Instant Pot (no disrespect, Instant Pot – I am truly, madly and deeply in love with you). No one’s immune, not the elderly, not millennials – not even preschoolers. I heard a mom call in to a radio show …

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Confidence

On the TV show Inside The Actors Studio, one of the questions host James Lipton asks is “What is your favorite word?” When I play along, I must admit it’s hard for me to narrow down a favorite. Some days I’ll think my word is hope, other days it’s flexibility, but today I’m choosing confidence. …

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4 Things to Know About Vaginismus Treatment Under Anesthesia

We have been using Botox to treat Vaginismus here at Congtythamtu for almost 10 years now.  It has been a life changer for so many patients who have had difficulty getting started with dilation. Not many practices perform this procedure, so I would like to take this opportunity to answer some frequently asked questions. Does …

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Yes Virginia, Parents DO Have Sex!

Kids bring parents joy and love and hugs and kisses. And they also throw an epic wrench into the sex lives of even the most randy of couples.  As newborns, babies challenge our literal humanity with crying jags and sleep interruption the likes of which rival military torture. Then they begin to wiggle out of …

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Is the G-Spot Real? Depends on Who you Ask

Ask a woman about existence of the G-Spot, and you’ll likely either receive a firm confirmation or flat-out denial. Why is the G-Spot – after 68 years of it’s discovery by Ernst Grafenberg – still so controversial? This question speaks to how little we know about this area of the vagina that gives epic pleasure …

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The Way You Want It

Look no further than your latest social media feed (or any other media, for that matter) and where you find the word “women”, it will likely be paired with another: “empowerment”.  Women are finding their voices like never before professionally, socially and even politically. But when it comes to intimacy, are we able to express …

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Coconut Oil Saves the Day

I love coconut oil! I mean, is there anything that coconut oil can’t do? You can cook with it, it’s great for your skin, I’ve made lip balm and bath bombs out of it. And it makes a great lubricant! Click here for an interesting article about using coconut oil in the bedroom. Looking for …

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Painful Sex? Don’t Suffer in Silence

Unfortunately, many women who experience painful intercourse suffer for months, even years, before finding relief. Many women persist with having painful intercourse in silence, some not even telling their partners, because they keep hoping it will get better on its own. Often, when women do seek treatment they feel that their concerns are brushed aside, …

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The Other Side of the Bed

I remember visiting my future mother in law in her home for the first time. I noticed in her bedroom how one side of the bed was stripped bare while the other side was fully made. She had been widowed for a few years and that reality was highlighted by the stark sight of the …

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