How to Have Sex When the Kids are Home

I recently got a card from my husband that was perfect. It had a picture of two teenagers sneaking off to the basement to have sex while their parents watch TV in the next room. The second panel had a picture of two middle-aged parents sneaking off to have sex while their teenagers watched TV …

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Another Attack on Healthy Sexuality

There are numerous things that continue to surprise me as a therapist. I have worked with hundreds of sexual assault survivors for over ten years, and very few ever reported the assaults.  There are numerous reasons for that, but one reason that continues to shock me is the shame these individuals feel in disclosing the …

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Grieving Sex

Grief is an experience that is hard to quantify or explain.  It doesn’t work in the usual confines of time and space.  It’s a unique experience, yet shared by humanity.  The New York Times recently published an article on grieving a sex life after a partner dies. It was an important conversation starter.  I thought …

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National Mental Health Awareness Month

May is National Mental Health Awareness month. This year the focus is on risky behaviors. It is important to educate people about habits, and behaviors that increase the risk of developing or exacerbating mental health problems. An example of risky behavior involves sex.  Sex is a completely natural and normal part of the human experience, …

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One Heart, Many Genders

I recently watched the mini-series “When We Rise”. The show follows the true life individual and political histories of various LGBT activists who were instrumental in the US civil rights movement. Going back further in our country’s history, I learned that all Native American societies acknowledged three to five gender roles : Female, male, Two …

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OSCARS AND KEGELS- AN UNLIKELY PAIR!

Every year, I eagerly wait to hear what treats will be inside the Oscar goody bag. Drum roll: This years’ Oscar swag bag included a limited edition Elvie which is a pelvic floor exercise tracker; a Fit Bit for kegels! The Elvie boasts “better core strength, control, and better sex “as it coaches you through your kegels and measures …

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Porn Statistics

Call me a nerd but I am fascinated by statistics of internet searches on porn sites. I feel like ever since I read A Billion Wicked Thoughts, I am very sensitive to the fact that the only way to gather accurate data about who really likes what, who is really looking for what and what our habits are around …

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3 Ways to Make Space for Sex

I recently collaborated with Fiera blog writer Kristy Lin Billuni to discuss where to have sex and different ways to make space for sex. Fiera is focused on helping women get their mind and body in the mood for sex again. It’s well known that the world we live in today is buzzing with distractions …

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