A Change is Gonna Come: The Truth About Your Postpartum Sex Life

Ask any new parent if their sex life has changed postpartum. If they answer with a quick and cool “no, why?” they are lying to your face. Or at least hiding something. Because babies. Change. Everything. I’m a reproductive social worker, doula, childbirth educator and mom, so I’m gonna tell it like it is:         it’s …

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Should I be Using an Estrogen Cream?

Estrogen creams are for peri or post-menopausal women experiencing symptoms of vaginal atrophy. It occurs because of the lower estrogen levels in the blood after menopause. The skin becomes drier and less elastic, causing such symptoms as burning, pain with intercourse, and even urinary incontinence. Estrogen creams work locally, as opposed to hormone replacement therapy …

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Brain Power

Our brains deserve credit for much of our sexual functioning. Once underlying physiological factors are addressed, we need to exercise the pleasure centers in the brain to boost libido and arousal. How do we do this? Reading erotica and engaging in fantasy are known to positively foster sexuality. They are vehicles that allow us to …

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Judy Blume and Puberty

Judy Blume’s 1970 classic “Are You There God? It’s Me, Margaret” is being adapted into a movie. Woohoo! I am one of the women for whom this sweet, funny, authentic story about preteenhood was a lifesaver. This book is like a good friend who is there to normalize our experience and to ease the anxiety …

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The Way You Want It

Look no further than your latest social media feed (or any other media, for that matter) and where you find the word “women”, it will likely be paired with another: “empowerment”.  Women are finding their voices like never before professionally, socially and even politically. But when it comes to intimacy, are we able to express …

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September Is Menopause Awareness Month

All women know that at some point in their lives, that lovely phase called “menopause” will be upon them. And based on everything they’ve heard, they will likely expect to experience one or more of these common symptoms: hot flashes, night sweats, insomnia, fatigue, memory loss, low sex drive, painful intercourse or depression. What if …

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Boundaries in the Bedroom

Every month another women’s magazine has an article about how you should “make your bedroom an oasis.” Or “keep the bedroom for sex.” And when I see this I have a difficult time stifling a giggle. Yes, of course we would all be better off if we kept our bedroom as a haven for sex. …

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Quality Over Quantity

At Congtythamtu Women’s Health we treat many women whose chief complaint is low desire. Some women have experienced a slow decline in libido for years, whereas for others it’s almost like a light switch suddenly turned off. Regardless of the onset, in both groups of women I often hear that their partner would ideally want …

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What Should Go in the Vagina?

We live in the world of internet health, for good and bad. I admit to turning to the internet for medical advice. A rash on my arm, a strange feeling in my chest, and I turn to Dr. Google. However, in the end, the overwhelming amount of advice and strange ideas usually sends me straight …

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Is My Low Sex Drive Treatable?

If you have been to the gynecologist and the answer to that question was “Oh just try having a glass of wine” or “Desire is something that fades with time- join the club”, then you might feel like the answer is no. But in reality, that is simply not the case. Sex drive is multifactorial, …

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