We Get By With A Lot Of Help From Our Friends

Diversifying our material assets is a well-known concept. As it turns out, doing the same with relationships is a good idea as well. Finding a significant other is wonderful, but may not be enough for meeting all of our emotional needs. Having different people around to help with varying emotional tasks seems to be linked …

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Reviving “The Dining Dead”!

I regularly tune into Modern Love the Podcast. There was a recent episode titled “How The ‘Dining Dead’ Got Talking Again”. It’s really scary when you and your significant other stop talking and sharing intimate conversation. Of course there’s tons of relationship advice out there. Here’s an interesting tidbit: Research has shown that when we …

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Being There

One of the things I want to work on this year is creating space to slow down. Life is so fast paced and busyness abounds in our culture. The rat-race and our road runner society often don’t allow us moments to be fully present. Time is something we can never get back. So, let’s try …

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Dyspareunia

“What is Dyspareunia” has probably not been an answer on Jeopardy, but I could be wrong. Dyspareunia is a general term that describes any pain during sexual intercourse. Symptoms can include: pain upon penetration, sudden pain after intercourse, deep pain during thrusting, and burning pain anywhere in the pelvis. It is essentially a “basket” diagnosis, as it …

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To Do

Especially around Holiday time we have so much happening and our To-Do list can begin to look like The Gettysburg Address! Take a breath and take note of The Real To – Do List: Sing Smile Keep learning Notice kindness Eat well Hope Count your blessings Laugh Love Love some more Keep adding to this …

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Living Life in Shades of Gray

Many of us tend to “split” and see life and ourselves as either good or bad, right or wrong, smart or dull, fair or unfair, or one extreme or the other.  This is called “black and white thinking “and we generally engage in it to give us a sense of control and familiarity. In truth, …

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All You Need Is Self – Love!

A common theme I hear from women who come to Congtythamtu Women’s Sexual Health is how it’s so much easier for them to give to their partners than it is to receive. Of course there is more to this than meets the eye, but it got me thinking that many women aren’t “talented receivers”. Is …

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You’ve Come A Long Way Broadcasting Baby

I am loving TV these days. Remember when Lucy and Ricky’s bedroom had twin beds separated by a large piece of furniture?! Nowadays even vibrators are the subject of discussion on a Prime Time television show. Every type of family dynamic is represented on screen. We have same sex couples, working moms, single moms, stay …

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Ch-ch-ch-ch-Changes

The road to change is rarely a straight one. There are usually some bumps along the way. At Congtythamtu Women’s Health we treat many women with Vaginismus. It’s so rewarding to witness the success our women have as they go through the necessary dilation process. It may take years for someone to begin treatment and …

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The Power of Touch

I haven’t shaken off a friend’s comment about her son when he was 4 and in preschool. He wondered why the girls in the class got to sit on the teacher’s lap and be cuddled, while he and the other boys just got to play Leggos. The following article by Mark Greene explores “touch isolation” …

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