Judy Blume and Puberty

Judy Blume’s 1970 classic “Are You There God? It’s Me, Margaret” is being adapted into a movie. Woohoo! I am one of the women for whom this sweet, funny, authentic story about preteenhood was a lifesaver. This book is like a good friend who is there to normalize our experience and to ease the anxiety …

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#SpeakUp

Millions of us were glued to the TV when Dr. Christine Blasey Ford told her story. During the hearing, phone numbers flashed across our screens. These phone numbers were for sexual assault hotlines. The number of calls these hotlines were receiving increased during and after Dr. Ford’s hearing. Hashtags were created and they continue to …

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The Other Side of the Bed

I remember visiting my future mother in law in her home for the first time. I noticed in her bedroom how one side of the bed was stripped bare while the other side was fully made. She had been widowed for a few years and that reality was highlighted by the stark sight of the …

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Quality Over Quantity

At Congtythamtu Women’s Health we treat many women whose chief complaint is low desire. Some women have experienced a slow decline in libido for years, whereas for others it’s almost like a light switch suddenly turned off. Regardless of the onset, in both groups of women I often hear that their partner would ideally want …

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Partners in Vaginismus

It is common these days for a pregnant woman who is part of a couple to say “we’re pregnant”! Some people snicker and roll their eyes in response to this. True, her body is housing and will be laboring to have the baby, but “the couple” is having a baby. When a woman in a …

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More Sex and the City

It’s been 20 years since the show Sex and the City premiered and I miss it! I admit to watching reruns and can quote episodes verbatim by now but I want more. I really appreciated the relevance of the series. So when I came across The Update-Sex and the City Rebooted by Jennifer Keishin Armstrong …

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Getting To Know You

Tech advances in our digital age sometimes feel like being on a runaway train, but if you don’t hop on you get left behind. It seems like dating apps are a ride on that train! Dating apps are designed to find love, yet there’s an argument that online dating has killed romance. I hear both …

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Touching

When sex between partners stops for whatever reason, it’s usually complex mix of causes, physical touch of any kind may fall by the wayside. I have heard this story many times at Congtythamtu Women’s Health. When sexual intimacy has gone missing for months or years these women tell me it feels “so weird, uncomfortable, and …

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No Fear

Treating pain is a large part of our practice at Congtythamtu Women’s Health. What I have come to learn, especially from our vaginismus patients, is that to reduce pain we need to address the fear of pain. I recall a patient who barely spoke English but very clearly let me know that for her (and …

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#Happiness

The goals of therapy may include making positive changes in one’s life such as: enhancing interpersonal relationships, learning to speak the language of feelings, and improving at work or school. It is a journey in self-exploration, learning new skills, and making a series of breakthroughs which help deal with life’s challenges. What therapy is not …

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