How to Have Sex When the Kids are Home

I recently got a card from my husband that was perfect. It had a picture of two teenagers sneaking off to the basement to have sex while their parents watch TV in the next room. The second panel had a picture of two middle-aged parents sneaking off to have sex while their teenagers watched TV …

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Pain During Intercourse: There is Help

The biggest hurdle with treating painful intercourse is that patients don’t realize they can be helped! When you are having pain with intercourse it’s usually due to one of these factors – your muscles might be tight, either at the entrance to the vagina or around it, the skin in the vagina might be irritated, …

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Making Sense of Sexual Harassment

It’s time to see sexual harassment in all its variant shades of grey. We don’t do ourselves or anyone else any favors when we lump together rape, public displays of indecency, getting groped, or having lewd language spewed at us, all in one basket. They are just not the same thing. There is rape. There …

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Low Libido after Childbirth

You know you used to be into sex. Yes, that was you, not someone else.  You remember thinking at one time, “wow, this is great!” But it just doesn’t seem to be happening that way anymore. Okay, you think, “so I had a baby (you fill in the blank: 6 months, 1 year, 2 years, …

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Fantasies… Fantasies… Fantasies…

When I fantasize about something, does that mean that I really want that thing to happen? (I get asked this all the time!) NO. No. And no. All it means is that you like to fantasize about that activity/act/event. Now, very commonly women get upset about their fantasies because they think that they are not …

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Punishing Sex Offenders

Our country hates and demonizes sex offenders.  Their punishments are often severe and life-long. We punish them far more harshly than we do any other type of offenders. And this is largely based on the fact that we believe sex offenders have “very high” recidivism rate. That is, we believe that once “let back out …

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You May Not Need The Vestibulodynia Surgery After All!

So you’ve been told you need surgery for your Vestibulodynia. Maybe you do. And maybe you don’t.  A new treatment protocol might make that surgery unnecessary. Provoked Vestibuloydynia (PVD) is clinically defined as chronic, unexplained, vulvar pain or discomfort in the vulvar area in response to any type of pressure.  The pain may be in …

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A New Insight into Date Rape

I used to have a difficult time understanding how a situation would occur where the woman felt she had been raped and the man felt that the sex had been consensual. (I am excluding situations in which one person is lying. I am addressing here those situations where both parties are acting as honest brokers …

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