Netflix and Chill

Okay, I’m not advertising Netflix. I am trying to advertise the “chill” part. Often people don’t make time to “just be” with each other and then they expect sex to “happen” spontaneously. It most often doesn’t work that way. People need a bridge between all the unsexy parts of life (changing diapers, analyzing a spreadsheet, …

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Exercising Your Erotic Brain

More and more we understand that the brain is elastic. When you are getting “better” at a skill it is not only because you are learning that particular skill but because you are actually expanding parts of the brain. When you are working on learning something new, say a certain type of math, you will …

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Can Wild and Crazy Sex Exist in the Time of Me Too?

I have been struggling mightily for the past few months to articulate what Haley Phelan says so perfectly in this weeks NY Times.Thank you Haley! Sex is tricky, messy and complicated. Trying to harness it into a set of rules will only lead to more confusion and ultimately disappointment. That doesn’t mean we  don’t need …

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How to Have Sex When the Kids are Home

I recently got a card from my husband that was perfect. It had a picture of two teenagers sneaking off to the basement to have sex while their parents watch TV in the next room. The second panel had a picture of two middle-aged parents sneaking off to have sex while their teenagers watched TV …

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Pain During Intercourse: There is Help

The biggest hurdle with treating painful intercourse is that patients don’t realize they can be helped! When you are having pain with intercourse it’s usually due to one of these factors – your muscles might be tight, either at the entrance to the vagina or around it, the skin in the vagina might be irritated, …

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Making Sense of Sexual Harassment

It’s time to see sexual harassment in all its variant shades of grey. We don’t do ourselves or anyone else any favors when we lump together rape, public displays of indecency, getting groped, or having lewd language spewed at us, all in one basket. They are just not the same thing. There is rape. There …

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Low Libido after Childbirth

You know you used to be into sex. Yes, that was you, not someone else.  You remember thinking at one time, “wow, this is great!” But it just doesn’t seem to be happening that way anymore. Okay, you think, “so I had a baby (you fill in the blank: 6 months, 1 year, 2 years, …

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