Netflix and Chill

Okay, I’m not advertising Netflix. I am trying to advertise the “chill” part. Often people don’t make time to “just be” with each other and then they expect sex to “happen” spontaneously. It most often doesn’t work that way. People need a bridge between all the unsexy parts of life (changing diapers, analyzing a spreadsheet, …

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Exercising Your Erotic Brain

More and more we understand that the brain is elastic. When you are getting “better” at a skill it is not only because you are learning that particular skill but because you are actually expanding parts of the brain. When you are working on learning something new, say a certain type of math, you will …

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Can Wild and Crazy Sex Exist in the Time of Me Too?

I have been struggling mightily for the past few months to articulate what Haley Phelan says so perfectly in this weeks NY Times.Thank you Haley! Sex is tricky, messy and complicated. Trying to harness it into a set of rules will only lead to more confusion and ultimately disappointment. That doesn’t mean we  don’t need …

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